What if your dad confessed to you that he is gay?

Question

Would you be happy for him that he finally came out? Or would you be angry with him for "lying to himself" about his sexuality?

What if he has had a male lover? Would you wish them well together? Or would you be angry with him for hurting your mum?

What if he had given your mum many wonderful years of marriage and had not cheated on her? Would that make a difference?

Would you be angry with him for destroying your fatherly image of him? Or would you think him more human and vulnerable?

On the flipside would you be happy that he has decided to marry your mum? After all, because of that, he has given you life?

No reason for this question, again, just playing the devil's advocate

And what about you ultra-religious consevatives out there? Would you be angry and ask him to repent his "sinful ways"? Or do you think that God would like you to love and forgive him?

Answer 1

I'd be bloody supprised thats for sure. Assuming my mother was not in the picture... then what the hell, I'd feel sorry for him for having hidden his feelings for so long, but hey.... I cant judge him, or anyone for that matter.

I'd feel lucky that he did in fact concieve me, but then i'm always aware that my existance is a quintillion (or more) to one chance in the first place.

Certainly wouldnt feel anger or resentment, maybe a little for his treatment of me as a teenager if he came out at this late stage.... As for god, I cant answer because I don't believe.

I'd certainly take the mickey out of him and his man, but then, I take the mickey out of most people. Just hope his man doesn't try it on with me ! (Ewww IMAGINE !!!! LOL !!!)

Answer 2

If my dad told me he was gay... Well, I would be shocked, but then again, he has a very anti-gay attitude, which normally hides latent homosexuality...

My parents are still married, so that would be the hardest part for me handle. Probably as hard as it would be if my parents were divorcing for a different reason.
If he had a male lover I would probably hate him, but for cheating on my mom, not for being gay.
Were he NOT married to my mom, I would still be kind of hesitant to accept him, I'm an adult child, I wouldn't take to him very quickly because I am protective of my family, I don't want someone coming in a changing things.

Him being gay wouldn't destroy my "fatherly image" of him. If he were gay, he would have been gay when I was born, when he helped raise and and every minute that I have known him since I knew him. I might think of him a little differently, but only because I would have learned something new about him that I would have to get used to.

He and my mother have been married for 31 years... I assume to stay together that long they would have to be happy, so if my mother had come to terms with this new development, I would be ok with it too.

Answer 3

If my dad 'came out' I would feel sorry for him. Being in your mid 60s and coming out is hardly an easy thing to do. However I would ask him why he felt the need to do it now, at this point in his life. The main thing that would determine my positive or negative reactions to him would be his treatment of my mum. For all that I am gay and wouldn't judge him purely on the grounds of his sexuality, deception/lies or untruths, I would find harder to forgive, expecially towrds my mum/his wife.

Answer 4

I know a man that changed into a woman after being married for over 20 years and had three children it desrtoyed everyone of them he actually offered to be lesbian with hes now x wife but she could not accept that hes kids dont talk to him lovely person and has done what was right for himself but at what cost he is not gay

Answer 5

My dad did come out and because i was young i thought it was really weird ..

Then as i got older i realised hes happy and i was actually happy for him..

I loved him too bits and thought it wouldnt matter what he was.. thats what makes him what he is.

And now after all that.. i've turned out to be Gay!

So i'm a chip off the old block eh? ;o)

Just take it in your stride and be proud that he is what he is..
You should be supportive !

x

Answer 6

Well let's see. I wouldn't exist if he decided to come out early, so like some off double standard., I would be happy that he didn't come out. My parents are divorced, but I would feel bad for my step-mom. I wouldn't care... perfect opportunity for me to come out to him. It wouldn't destroy a "fatherly" image. I would look at him the same way I always did. I answered that last one already.

Answer 7

i do no longer think of you're homosexual via fact your Dad wasn't around - do you? it incredibly is only who you're. he won't be able to deliver you homestead???? Oh! How effective of him. Please. you're a great toddler - who occurs to be homosexual - and he's the guy who thought that raising you in touch some telephone calls and visits each 3 hundred and sixty 5 days or 2 - and he's going to allow you to reside???? pay attention - you basically circulate forth and locate out approximately shape - and act like no longer the rest has exceeded off. via fact incredibly - it hasn't. Your dad desires to get to understand you extra suited - properly - he's! this is who you're. the sorrowful situation is that if mum and dad and society only universal people for who they're then you definately does no longer even ought to submit approximately one in each of those situation. you would be posting a query with reference to the attractive timber on the San Diego zoo - and did all of us understand that Dr. Zuess replaced into stimulated by using them. (did you learn that as quickly as you went there? I did!!) i assume - such as you suggested - it could have been plenty worse - whether it incredibly is going to no longer additionally be strange. you basically carry your head up. you have completed no longer something incorrect. You asked "Now what?" - properly - no longer something extra advantageous than you basically circulate forward. i'm hoping your Dad keeps to get to understand you (via fact there is plenty extra to you than your sexuality) and supplies the countless love you ignored out on for years - and then some extra. and you will only act out of affection too. Love is frequently a stable situation to have around!!

Answer 8

I'd be shocked for sure but I'd accept it in the moment, first of all cause he's my father and second cause I'm gay as well and he's supported me all the time.
I guess I'd be kinda mad at him too 'cause he being gay means that he never really liked or even loved my mum.

Answer 9

He's my dad, I would feel sorry for mum if he had a lover but I would still love him and I think mum would find someone once she got over the shock.

Answer 10

My father is gay and had been with his partner for 15+ years and while he was married to my mother, he was NEVER unfaithful. The fact that my father is gay has not changed my opinion of him because he is still my father and I respect him and love him. His sexual orientation has no bearing on any part of my life.