As a guy, how do I stop masturbating?

Question

I'm 18 years old, and I have a problem: I masturbate to porn almost everyday.

I always say to myself, "Okay, I'm not going to do this tomorrow," but I end up doing it the next day anyway. I just can't stop. I feel debased and guilty. I wish I had the willpower to overcome it, but I don't; and I wish I had the anger to counter these thoughts, but I don't.

One solution would be to get a girlfriend and have sex with her, that way I wouldn't feel the need to masturbate because she'd be satisfying my sexual and emotional needs. But that's basically sinning to get rid of a sin - that simply won't work. Besides, I want to wait until marriage before I start having sex, which won't be until I'm like 23.

Will I be stuck like this for the next 5 years?

Answer 1

You will never be able to stop. Even having a girlfriend is not going to make you stop. Masturbating is too addictive to stop without professional help and then its doubtful. It ain't hurtin nobody so just go with it.

Answer 2

Masturbation is perfectly natural. Don't get a girlfriend just to have sex with her. And people who do masturbate are usually in a better mood. As long as you don't watch porn and masturbate obsessively (like 4 or 5 or 6 times a day, every day) its fine. Of course, I'm an atheist, so I have no idea what it is like to "sin". Really though, if you feel that guilty, go to confessions once a week and it's absolved, isn't it?

Answer 3

Even I'm a girl and I know that guys don't stop masturbating even if they are in a wonderful relationship with sex often. Hell, the sex me and my bf have leaves us both breathless, and he still masturbates at most three times a week. We've been dating almost a year and a half. Sorry honey, boys will be boys.

Answer 4

First off, masturbation isn't a sin. It is not mentioned in the 10 commandments nor in the teachings of Jesus. So unless you are a member of a religion that specifically states in its holy words that masturbation is sinful, then you are safe.

Secondly, daily mastrurbation (using whatever images - mental or porn or magazine or ...) is fine. It is not only pleasurable but ti does a number of things to keep you healthy and in touch with your own sexual responses.

Thus my best advice is get over the self imposed guilt trip and masturbate daily knowing that you are
a) practicing safe sex
b) not going to get anyone pregnant by madturbating
c) are lowering your risk of prostate cancer
d) are keeping your sexual tensions in hand
etc.

Answer 5

when you say you cant do something that makes you weaker instead say i can do this and i will not touch my self when i started i was going like 10 times a day then slowly down to 3 times a day then 1 a day then finally 1 every two days then i completely stopped right when my mind wanders that way i stop and think of something else unfortunatley my ballsw start feeling like they are gonna explode so i handle up but besides that ive said no to my penis and i know you can too but as far as balls exploding well im scared of that so

Answer 6

I'd suggest you firstly stop being so tough on yourself. Berating yourself and feeling guilty isn't going to accomplish anything except making you feel more guilty.

Sexual urges are natural ad can seem overly prevalent if you are unfulfilled in your life generally.

My best suggestion is to explore http://www.thework.com and first get over the guilt. Then make a concerted effort to live your life by design.

Also check out http://www.thebigpeace.com

Answer 7

Stop telling yourself you are not going to do it again. That is instant failure. If anyone thinks will power works try eating a whole box of ex lax and then use will power. It doesn't work. Check out SLAA.com you may be addicted to masturbating and if so you need help to stop. write me if you want and I will do what I can to encourage you in your effort to stop.

Answer 8

If your lucky it will only be 5 years. But as far as your problem goes try putting a picture of your mom next to your monitor. But honestly you shouldnt feel any shame in doing it. Its natural and every guy does it.

Answer 9

WHY WOULD YOU STOP, masterbating is good.

A. Its safe.
B. It feels good.
C. Nobodys knocked up with a child.
D. Not illigal(as of this writing)
E. And last its free!(well you gotta pay for the porn...But thats what the internet is for)

I salute you brother may your hand move with the wind.

Answer 10

dude common don't stop! everyone does it even ladies. It's completely normal! no need to feel bad about it, besides if your doing it everyday you obviously like it, and it feels good.

and maybe your g/f will come into and have sex with you, but i really doubt you'll stop masturbating, EVERYONE DOES IT. just remember that, plus for guys it helps to prevent prostate cancer in the long run..

So seriously bro, don't stop, enjoy it while you can.