well because i pay child support payments every month to my x husband and his wife just called me complaining that she has to get a damn job because the child support payments are late.
2007-08-26 11:38:49 · 16 answers · asked by JENN-JENN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They are payble to your husband for the support of your minor children.
Your husband's new wife is a real prize. I'd look into whether or not the child support payments are actually being used in substantial form to support your children, or if the new Missus is spending it on herself. If she is, you might want to think about getting primary physical custody and then he will have to pay child support to you....I'm sure that will make the new Mrs. Ex very happy!
2007-08-26 11:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your payments are between you and your Ex, however, this does effect his wife any way that you look at it. Your child is in "their" care, not just your husbands care and it costs more for utilities, gas, food and other necessities. As long as you are sending the payments every month, she shouldn't complain and really shouldn't need a job unless the payment is very late each month and they can't pay bills on time. If they aren't receiving the payments, than that is a different story. He should be calling you, not her, but keep in mind that is does effect her and the care of your child. Good luck!
2007-08-26 20:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should not be depending on your child support payments to make their bills. Child support is for the support of the child. And just because you're late (How late are we talking) the wife still has no right calling you to tell you how pathetic her life is. I think she is pretty sad to have to be doing that. I was the 2nd wife who's husband paid the support to the 1st one. She cried all the time about how she didn't get enough $. We not only paid support but paid several extras because we wanted too. I could not believe how the ex complained about how broke she was all the time. PATHETIC!! When my stepdaughter ended up moving in with us, we did not ask for support and 5 years later the ex still has done NOTHING for her daughter. If she calls you again, I would tell her how sorry you feel for her that she has to get off her butt and help support her family. Boo Hoo!!!
2007-08-26 18:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Willow 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since you don't live with your child, you payment goes to your ex-husband and he can do whatever he wants to do with even if he will use towards his wife as long your child stay with them, eats, sleeps well and is healthy. If you look at it, you probably pays around $300.00 each month. if you calculate the needs of a child with $300.00, surely its nothing. School everyday back and forth, food, clothing, miscl. expenses, helping a child learn etc. perhaps your ex-husband may have given his wife that responsibility and the money you pay for child support is what she earn to take care of you child. If you keep on being late to make payment she see no value of perhaps baby sitting your child instead you ex-husband should while she go out and look for a job.
2007-08-26 18:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's her problem. Your payments are exclusively for the child, not for the support of the x or his current wife.
2007-08-26 18:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer--it's between you and your ex. But if you're paying every month, why is she complaining that the payments are late?
2007-08-26 18:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by grizzie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really now ~ you know good and well the payments are for your ex husbands care for the children you made together.
If you cared for your kids you would make the payment consistantly each week or month.
Stop being a pain it is ruining you.
2007-08-27 18:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by BeautyQueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then pay your child support payments on time.
2007-08-26 20:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is between him and if his wife see the payments she will try to take control and stop him from paying more! Your ex-husband new wife sounds lazy,she suppose to been had a job! To pay the bills and other responsibilities!
2007-08-26 18:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Blessed__ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The support payments are not for her but for the children. It is between you and the courts. Remind her that it is not for her welfare but for the childs. Suggest her cutting down on excessive spending.
Also remind her that it is between you and the courts. Most women have to work anyway.....tell princess it will do her good for her nosey attitude to get a job.
2007-08-26 18:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋