I often feel like my identity disappears within a group. It isn't a positive thing for me. Because of this, I avoid most group situations. I do well one on one. Can anyone relate? How have you broken through this? Please only serious answers. Thank you!
2007-08-26 11:16:47 · 5 answers · asked by Elijahsrelative 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes. I have Asperger Syndrome. Could also be some form of social phobia.
2007-08-26 11:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by mattgo64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can absolutely relate to this...and I'm on good medication and going to therapy. I also meditate, walk, exercise, use aromatherapy, read self-help books, etc.
If I take classes, I excel in those that are on-line, at home self-paced, or televised courses. Those that I need to attend in person, I usually wind up dropping...
As far as working goes, I can only work on my own--I cannot do the 'team player' thingy. I have tended bar, driven a cab, made survey calls from home, delivered magazines to stores, etc. successfully. I cannot work in an office setting with a bunch of people around me. I tried, and had some pretty decent jobs--but could not stick with them.
If it is necessary for me to speak publicly, I go blank. I truly see everything as fog, and stutter...losing my trend of thought.
I lived in New York for some years. Just traveling to work was a hardship. In a subway or bus I needed to be near a window to look OUT of--I could not stand seeing all of those people in an enclosed place.
My diagnosis is panic/anxiety/agorophobia--my therapist even needed to write a letter to get me out of jury duty--stating that even one day there would hurt me (and it definitely would have).
If you do well one-on-one, then work that way. Take classes that way. Do whatever you need to do that way. There are all sorts of alternative classes, jobs, and even social activities that you can do alone or with just one other person.
I wish you well. Find yourself...
2007-08-26 11:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I do better one on one. It is more personal way to relate for me. I become overwhelmed with a lot of people and feel I can't be as personal because it takes a lot of energy to extend oneself to everyone in a very personal way.
2007-08-26 12:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should try to get in on a group. You have to have friend time in your life, You can't always have one on one. Try to see it like a break in your routine. In a group every one counts...All for one, and one for all...Good Luck
2007-08-26 11:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bigeyes 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmm. . .
Do you mean like. . .cliques?
2007-08-26 11:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by uʎlǝʇɐʞ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋