Do highschool friends matter after we graduate?

Question

Im just wondering like after we graduate do we just all go through our own paths. I mean especially if we are going to collage or university? Do they even matter? Do we really even need them after? Like after highschool will we still hang out with those people or will we make new friends in collage and university and hang with those people instead? How does it work, do we just go through our own paths?

Answer 1

It's all up to you. I know some people that never even saw some of their friends after high school. As for me, I built some great relationships in high school, and will know some of my friends from their forever.

Answer 2

Some do, some don't! It depends on why you are friends. If it's just because circumstances (both being in high school) have brought you together, then not necessarily. But even if the cause of your meeting has been circumstantial, you may find that with a few you have so much in common other than that temporary situation that you form a deep and lasting friendship based on those common interests and concerns. And if that is the case, it's not a case of "do they matter" after graduation, but more a certain knowledge on the part of each of you that you will always maintain your friendship, keep up with what you are each doing from year to year, talk regularly and meet whenever you can.

You're the only one who knows which of your friends fit which category. And of course, most people only ever have a handful of really close friends in their lifetime. The rest need not be just acquaintances. The friendship you share is real enough, but the relationship is more casual, because they're people you only see occasionally. You still get on well when you do meet, but it's not essential to either of you that contact is either regular or frequent. You like them, but they're not a consistent part of your life. They're not really close to you, as your very best friends will be.

wimsey

Answer 3

I had 2 best friends in High School - just 2. I've never gone to the High School reunions because I have forgotten everyone else I went to school with and don't have a great urge to see them again. But my 2 friends and I have communicated all these years. I graduated in 1966 - a LONG time ago - but we e-mail, send Birthday cards and Christmas cards. We might go 6 months without hearing from each other but that's OK. The first time we got together after High School was 1987 and the second time was last year. We bring each other up to date on our lives. I have had friends through the years and generally they come into your life when you need them and leave when you no longer need them. My girlfriends are very different than I am today but on the rare occasions when we get together - we have a great time. Hope that answered your question. We all went our own paths - one has a website for Christian Heavy Metal and attends a lot of Heavy Metal concerts all over the world, another just graduated 3 years ago with her PHD - what she's wanted to do for years - waited until after she raised her family. She even counseled prisoners on what to do, education-wise, after getting out of prison. I retired early (43) and live in the country with "critters" and deer. They are still my best friends.

Answer 4

Ummm...speaking from personal experience, not really. Maybe your best friend but everyone else just goes their own ways. After high school I went to college, got married and moved an hour away. I still keep in touch with some of my friends via email and myspace but we don't hang out anymore or talk on the phone. Even my best friend and I went our own separate ways....You may be able to keep in touch for a while but eventually life will get in the way. Especially if you go to different colleges, get married, have kids, etc. Now my husband is my best friend.

Answer 5

I had a circle of good friends in high school. Once we graduated and went our separate ways I only saw 2 of them during college, and after college was roommates with one of them for a year but once she got married I stopped seeing her. I didn't actually make many friends in college (took more than a full load of classes every semester, worked almost full-time, and had a busy volunteer position), at least not the kind you hang out with a lot. If I hadn't been so busy I would have liked to keep in touch with more of my friends, but I had so much to do that I didn't even think about it. In retrospect, I should have spent less time working and more time developing friendships. Whether you keep your high school friends or make new friends, it is important to have a network of people in your life who care about you and who you care about as well. It keeps your heart and spirit healthy to be connected with other people. So don't abandon people you really care about even when your lives change, but always be open to new friendships and new experiences. Okay, does that sound cheesy enough? ;-)

Answer 6

athrodite, Some do some do not. The real world is a cold hard reality out of high school ! But if you make the effort even though you take seperate paths it is possible to stay in touch. The world wide web makes this possible !

Answer 7

Usually, high school friends eventually drift apart. If they go to different colleges, they will each make new friends and they're pursuing their own career interests. After a couple years, high school friends just have less and less in common. When you're in high school, you have that in common, you go to school with the same people, etc. After high school, you just lose so much of that.

You can stay friends with your high school friends, but it has to take a lot of effort by both people. It's a lot easier now with email, IM, etc. But, both people still have to make an effort and unfortunately, a lot of times, one or both people don't.

Answer 8

I have only stayed in touch with one of my high school friends. I talked to a few of them for a little while after graduation, but then we all went our separate ways and I don't even know where any of them live anymore. You do move on as life moves on. You get new friends at a job or in college.

Answer 9

Yes. They definitely matter. You gradually become who you are as a result of who your friends are as you where growing up. This goes way beyond high school and college; well into your late 20's.

Your friends that grew up with you knows your personality, nature, habits, idiosyncrasies, etc... and accept them.

As you grow older you will find it more difficult (not too mention less appealing) to meet new friends that understands and accepts like the ones you have prior history with.

Make many new friends but value your old ones.

-The Mancake

Answer 10

Friends from any age in your life matters. I still send Christmas cards to two ladies that I worked with 35 years ago. If you live in your home town after you graduate from college your same high school friends may live there too. You can never have too many friends.