i am 15 years old and my mom is 49 years old. we have been bestfriends forever, i love her more then anything. she just told me today that she has liver cancer and the doctor said she wont live more then 3 months. i dont know how to handle this, i just want to die. help me??
2007-08-26 10:36:51 · 9 answers · asked by Kelli-Anne h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh honey i am so sorry you are having to deal with this so young. It is never easy to lose someone close to you no matter how old you are especially your mother. I would suggest you spend as much time as possible with your mother now and cheerish all the timeu have left , Maybe you can plan a special thank god your still here thing to do every day you have left , like thigns you want to make sure u two do, things you want to talk about etc.., Its hard since you dont have a specific time line but most of all let your mother know you love her and you will always carry her with you in your heart, just like she will always be looking down on you. there is no answer for why people die when they do all you can do is have faith that god has jis plan for your mother and he knows what is right, It may seem unfair but if you lose your faith then you are losing the only way you will have to talk to your mother when she is gone. I still talk to my grand parents every night in my prayers.(no im not crazy) i dont expect answers i just want them to know im thinkin about them and you can do the same after. Your mom loves you more than you can ever imagine and she will never leave you completely. After she is gone just know she is always with you and watching, live your life for her and always try to do what you think she would want for you most of all i know having kids of my own the ultimate goal of your mother is that you live life happy and healthy. Hope this helped a little in such a sad time, Cheerish your time you have left and remember she will never be totaly gone she will always be in your heart!
2007-08-26 10:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so so sorry. all I know is that you need to spend as much time with her as you can. do more things together, talk to her every chance you get... just spend a lot of time with her. let her know that you love her. doctors CAN be wrong though.. when I was a freshman one of my friends found out his dad had liver cancer also. they told his dad that he would only live for a few months.. but his dad is still alive today, and I'm a junior now. but either way, I know this must be hard for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
2007-08-26 18:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I lost my mom a long time ago, very suddenly, and I wish I had a chance to talk to her, and to say goodbye. If it helps, I can only tell you that she is with me all the time. If there is a hospice program in you area they can be a great resource that will understand what you are going through. They not only talk care of people who are dying, but they also provide help to the families or anyone who is dealing with grief and loss. Just remember that she will always love you.
2007-08-26 17:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by italiano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww this will be a hard chapter in your life. Just remember, everything WILL eventually be okay.
Talk to close family, friends, teachers, whoever you feel close to.
Letting your feelings out and getting help and love will help you a lot.
Spend a lot of time with your mom and just remember that when she's gone, she'll still be looking after you.
Do stuff that makes you happy. Listen to music, dance, whatever helps you.
I'm so sorry about everything. Here is a hug for you ((hug)) and you know, if you need to talk to someone to talk to, please feel free to e-mail me. Just visit my profile.
Everything will be okay. God bless you and your mother.
2007-08-26 18:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can honestly say this is going to be the hardest thing that will happen to you. my mother died four years ago, and i still need her every single day. right now you should spend time with her, talk to her, find out things about how you were when you were young, what your grandparents were like and what she wants of you when you grow up. you are limited with your time, and you may want to go see a therapist, just as an outsider who can be there for you. but just be there for your mom and for yourself.
i'm sorry you have to deal with this so young, but know your mom loves you and she will always be with you.
2007-08-26 17:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by jamaican me crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry dear, this will not only rob you of your mother but you childhood too. i know you love her and she loves you very much. i am sure that one of her biggest fears is leaving you and her family. try to find a way to ease her mind and fears by letting her know that you appreciate her guidence that has made you such a wonderful young person that i can tell you are.
i have cancer and a limited time so i know how important it is to have your family around you. tell her that you love her and you hold dear all the wonderful times in your heart and that you know that she will always be with you.
if you have a church and people you know and love, let them help you, don't try to hold in your sorrow. if you don't go to church seek friends and family that can help.
i know that our local hospice offers counseling to people and their families and usually it is for free or a nominal fee. they can offer help of all sorts.
remember to laugh,.... yes i said laugh!. it is important to take your mind of things and feel and act normal. for both your sakes. it is important for her to know that she is not alone.
now you must make the days count and not just count the days.
if you would like, you can email me for i would be glad to help in anyway i can, both you and your mom.
i will keep you in my prayers.
2007-08-26 18:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom you need to see doctor to beable to cope with this. yu have to be strong with this now and be there for her. its sad that she is moving on without you but she loves you and you must show how strong you are for her. its nothing that can be cured and its sad. i know how it hurts but only God and your religfious up bringing can save you if you have clergy or preist or whatever talk to them abou tthis. goo dluck
2007-08-30 00:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help and save your mom and go to the doctor
2007-08-26 17:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by 81 and 100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do all you can try to please her talk to her about everything that u need to let her kno how u feel cause when she's gon u want have any to ell it will never be tha same just tell her how much u love her
2007-08-27 00:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by ~tha_unique_1~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋