My husband's youngest brother cheated on his wife and got a co-worker of his pregnant. His wife just gave birth to a baby 2 months ago! We just learned that some chick is 1 months pregnant from him and my husband, his older brother and wife and myself are very disgusted with the whole situation. My brother-in-law has cheated left and right with many women and his wife just takes him back. We where all expecting for her to walk out on him since the news of a child broke out. My father in law has talked her into staying with him. My in-laws blame the girl who got pregnant for being a slease and they also blame the wife for not taking care of "his needs". I'm so angry I have decided to stop talking to him, he's a bastard! I know this is their problem and whatever they do is none of my business. But we have all lost sleep over this. And to top everything, my cheating bro in law is talking trash about the girl he got pregnant and how she has ruined his life. Is my brother in law SICK?
2007-08-26 10:10:55 · 14 answers · asked by C C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention that they live with my parent in laws.
2007-08-26 10:23:36 · update #1
Your BIL is just a sleaze, looking for any place to "park his buick".
The woman he slept with carries some degree of blame, but it falls more fully on BIL.
he refuses to take responsibility for his actions. He must do this
2007-08-26 10:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother in law has a problem this is true. But it really is his problem and if his wife wants to work it out there is nothing you can do. You are well within your rights to stop talking to him, but other than that it's really between them. I would definately not cut off his wife though, she needs the support of family even if they don't think she should work it out. The child of the girl he got pregnant is innocent as well. Don't isolate that child from your family, remember the child is innocent in this situation.
I would encourage your husband to talk to his brother about getting help for his cheating, perhaps he has a sex addiction. I certainly hope he will learn from his mistake.
2007-08-26 17:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thoughtless and self-centered and his parents are enablers, they prefer to blame anyone and anything else except for the source of the problem which is their son, and also explains why he behaves this way; obviously he was raised with no consequences for bad behavior and now believes he can do anything he pleases.
Notice how he blames the girl he impregnated for ruining his life? See how ridiculous that is? He is a classic womanizer with no thought for how his actions impact others, and even his wife takes him back! No one seems to want or be able to teach him a much needed lesson.
One day he will get an STD, maybe that will slow him down.
2007-08-26 17:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let me make a clear point here first...1. the girl he slept with and got pregnet in not a sleeze. maybe she honestly liked this man. 2nd your brother-in-law has a major issue going on in his head. He ovously don't care about his wife to continue cheating on her and then be able to look her in the face. this is a man with no feeling for what he does....this is a sick sick man. He may have lied to this lady and said he was separated or something. we don't know. However, the sister-in-law needs to pack her bags and get out of there before she ends up with a disease. As for the in-laws they are just a sick as the son is. How dare them accuse the wife on not taking care his needs. She did not marry this man just to satisfy his needs. what about her wants and needs. What about the poor women he got pregnet why call her names she may have been a victim of his selfish game is likes to play....Please tell the wife that now is the time to see a doctor for safty reasons and also a lawyer. and get this s. o. b. for adultry....good luck to you...
2007-08-26 17:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by futurecreationsusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother-in-law is a spoiled little boy, that needs to grow up. At home he is probably abusive and his wife feels threatened, and afraid to leave. You need to stand by her, but you don't have to talk to him. The other girl, is partly to blame, because she knew he was married, and what the outcome would be, unless he lied, about the status of his marriage. Your father-in-law needs to stay out of it, and let him stand on his own two feet.
2007-08-26 17:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys in general have expectations in life from the woman we get married to our jobs and so on.However this guy definitely has a severe problem.I mean how much more does he expect from his wife after she has repeatedly forgiven him.Now as with your problem.Just concentrate on whats important in your life you husband and your children and household.If you've tried your best to talk to your brother in law and gotten no result then pray and hope that he changes his incorrigible attitude in the future
2007-08-26 18:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by digy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man he is very sick and needs to go see a counselor or better yet seek the LORD! It's obv. that his wife has low self-esteem or she wouldnt keep taking him back...
Seriously, she needs to get tested for STDs because no telling who else he has slept with-it's obv. that he is not using condoms at all to protect himself and his wife. He has no respect for his wife, child and their home and maybe one day she will see the light and leave him.
As for the girl that he got pregnant, she needs to be ashamed of herself for messing with a married man. There is a penalty to pay for that and her time is coming. But he was also wrong for seeking someone else outside of the marriage.
In the meantime, since you know what is going on all you can do is provide support for his wife and help her with anything when she asks for it. GOD blesses those who bless others in their time of need.
NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT! NO ONE!
2007-08-26 17:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your cheating brother in law will probably never change his ways, and will continue to cheat. he will also continue to blame everyone around him for his own actions, so don't sit around waiting for him to change a thing.
yes he could have some sort of disorder (but from here it looks like he has a "nothing is ever MY fault disorder).
just go on with your lives.... you have better things to do.
if the brother in law's wife is gullible and so stupid she believes he wasn't at fault, she has issues too!
let them wallow in stupidness!!
2007-08-26 17:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother in law is very sick to say the least. He is irresponsible and has no respect for anyone...And worst...his family wants to blame everyone but him for his problems.
2007-08-26 17:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sick? Not sure. A disgusting jerk, yes. A cheating SOB yes. Shall I continue?
2007-08-26 17:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋