Have you ever felt left out and ignored like you dont belong and no matter what you do isn't good enough... How did you deal with it? ANd how can I solve it
2007-08-26 09:43:26 · 9 answers · asked by Me 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, I have felt this way before...sometimes it's an actual occurrence, and sometimes it's only imagined. The first step is to determine which is the case with you. If it's imagined, recognizing that fact goes a long way toward solving the problem. If it's actual, then you have to find a better caliber of people to associate with. Negative, unsupportive crowds are usually the way they are because some "supposed" popular person dictates the group persona (as if they all shared a common brain). The group goes along with this crap out of fear that they may be the next ones on the outside looking in. In this light, they don't share a common brain so much as they've surrendered their collective wills to a single brain...kind of an empty existence, don't you think? So, you're better off without them. The good news is, there's nothing for you to solve (if this is the case) because there's nothing "wrong" with you. This human dynamic is as old as time itself. There are plenty of people eager and willing to know you. Go find them and enjoy yourself.
2007-08-26 09:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best solution is to set aside at least 1-2 hours a week to go to a nursing home or childrens shelter, volunteer to read to the elderly, bring them a cold coke, or a flower, take a toy or two to children. Your sharing just a little of your time will do more to help your sense of non worth more than anything. You will find that you do something to give to others and in so doing will bring joy to your own life. Try it---youll like it.
2007-08-26 16:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by glenn t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this feeling quite recently and I confided in a friend, unfortunatly she started to bully me with the help of my other friends. If they don't understand then move to another group of friends that you feel more comfortable with. Ever since I did I feel great and I feel like I belong again.
2007-08-26 16:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realized that although I feel lonely that I am never alone. GOD is always with me and at the end of the day he provides me with what I need.
You just need to establish a good friend base that has the same things in common as you that's all...
2007-08-26 16:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at some point we all fell left out or insufficient. The important thing is not to do things so your friends will accept you. Do things that make you happy and make you feel good about yourself and you will naturally attract people that what to be associated with you. If you friends make you feel left out then make some new friends and continue to be yourself.
2007-08-26 16:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believing in yourself, don't waste your time worrying want everyone else thinks about you, when the last time you woke up and seen there face in your mirror, just be yourself and the best person you can be. Enjoy your life and smile everything works out .
2007-08-26 16:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by joseph w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have, but I always turn to the Bible. But if you don't like that idea, try writing about it, that way you take out all your feelings in a healthy way. Hope I helped!
2007-08-26 16:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to deal with it you should tell your friends you feel that way, or tell them how much u love them. to solve it you could invite them over ur house so then they would have to not ignore you since there in your house!
2007-08-26 16:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmm
"I would not want to join a club that would want someone like me as a member"
its either Groucho or Thoreau
2007-08-26 16:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋