Some people say that respect needs to be earned by being nice and cooperative. But I can't help to think that some people will never respect you no matter how cool, nice or obedient you can be. Some people, most people respect what they fear.
Being nice is the best way to let people take advantage of you.
Isn't being MEAN and TOUGH the only way to "earn" respect from others ?
2007-08-26 09:22:59 · 3 answers · asked by Chief Justice 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
People appreciate others that are nice. Being nice is usually a way a person expresses there personality (meaning that person is just nice). Or usually, a way to communicate how much you respect or like another person.
Respect, for the most part, is earned by your accomplishments, your appearance and your character. So, for example, if you have an expensive car ... people will respect you more. However, if you have a bad character (aka using people to your advantage, being self-absorbed, emotionally abusing people) ... people will respect you less.
Being tough can get you respect, because people also respect power. However, being tough will help you in the short term ... but not the long term.
If somebody told you that "respect needs to be earned by being nice and cooperative" ... that person is trying to manipulate you to follow his or her plans (or that person is passing on bad advice that's ONLY half explained to you).
It's good to be nice, but it's important to stand up for your values and beliefs. It's better to be nice and assertive instead of nice and aggressive.
Whats really weird is ... some people TOTALLY don't respect people that are nice. For example, some very pretty women, feel that if you are "NICE" then you must have an unterior motive. But if you ignore those same "very pretty women" they will respect you more. (This does not apply to all women or all pretty women, but usually pretty, pampered women between 16-26 years of age that have that self-absorbed "Diva" attitude.
TIps ...
- find out what you respect and work toward increasing the respect you have for yourself. So, rate how much you respect yourself, then accomplish some goals geared to increase your respect ... then rate yourself again.
- Don't casually be nice to everybody. Be nice to those that are nice to you.
- There is "good nice" and "bad nice". So, "bad nice" is sucking up to somebody for a hidden reason, while doing things that make you look or feel bad later. "Good Nice" is standing up for what you believe in a polite way or even a courageous way.
Good Luck.
2007-08-27 11:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect is sort of a game you have to play with people. You have to be stern enough to garner enough attention as a strong individual who cannot be walked over, but you also have to show compassion and logical reasoning enough to make people like you. Showing compassion and being nice marks you as an intelligent individual who can reason out appropriate cause for sympathy or punishment. Respect then stems from strength of character and the traits that specific people value.
2007-08-26 09:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being mean and tough may lead you to respect, money leads you to respect as well. finally, proving you are succesful about a specific event brings you respect from people who are interested in this event. getting people think you are cool will bring you their respect. being nice only brings you trust of people.
2007-08-26 09:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by hdd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋