A deep thought, please voice your opinion.?

Question

Were always trying to find something new-always. Life is all about change. Changes happen everyday. You say you don't like change? Why even say that or think that. Life is change is it not? I've changed alot throughout all the years. If you know me and stuck with me most of my life you would know. But sadly there would only be a few people who could honostly say that they have. Because people always leave. Usually without an explanation. And I wind up sad and confused. Think for a minute, about the people you could honostly say that you trusted, where are they now? I ask myself this. The outcome that most of you would expect would be that out of all those people I trusted there is not one left. But I acctually havent trusted many people in my life because at a young age I had already figured out that people lie. The concept is not very hard. So I saw it coming. The only thing is that some people act so well. They act so trustworthy when they are not. So you end up trusting them and get your feelings hurt right? But what do you do?

Answer 1

Learn that people come and go from our lives, it is a natural phenomenon. Think of it this way, would you want to still be around every single person that you have ever met in your life? Would you want to be forced to be around people that you would rather never see again? Just because you liked or trusted them does not give them obligation to reciprocate those feelings to you, and vice versa. Realize that everything and everyone in your life is temporary. Some things you have control over, some you do not. Our lives are not scripted, we make choices, some are good some turn out to be not so good. But know that everyone that has been in your life at one time or another had a propose for being there, once their purpose was fulfilled, they were on their way. Be thankful that you still have people in your life from before. Perhaps those people came and went to show you that you needed to change some things about yourself. It's all a matter of perspective, and it takes time to be objective about your own life, but it makes things much easier to understand. I hope this helps, good luck to you.

Answer 2

Trust is something that is earned. It takes time and is earned in degrees. It is also a mutual thing that you have to earn yourself. You cannot go around simply trusting everyone you know or meet and expect them to be trustworthy. Give your friends small opportunities to show themselves to be worthy of your trust before going in too deep. Some people are trustworthy only to a certain extent. You can learn just how much that is in time. Some people are honest in some areas where they may not be in others. For example, I have a friend that I know I can trust when it comes to money or not stealing or even simple honesty in what he says. BUT I know when it comes to women, he just can't be trusted. He let's his lust control his behavior and will hit on any woman that crosses his path.
I know other guys that are just the opposite. They wouldn't dare think about approaching anyone I was seeing but I know better than to loan him a dollar because I'd never get it back.
I can say the same about another friend who just lies all the time. He can't help it. He's insecure and always has to "one up" everybody he's around. But a better guy you'd never meet. He's kind and considerate, wouldn't take anything without asking and would give you the shirt off his back. Loaning him money is no problem. He just can't seem to tell the truth. Do I trust him? Sure, I just don't believe everything he says.
There are going to be very few people in your life that you can completely trust no matter what, if any!
Don't let that prevent you from trusting people. Just understand that not everyone has the same values and priorities in life as you do. Trust them as far as they've earned that trust.
On the other hand, If you have a significant other that is your partner in life. Trust is the most important thing you two must share. Without that, the words "I DO" should never be said. So take plenty of time and provide plenty of opportunities to ensure that person is someone you can and do trust, OR I promise you it will one day be a problem.
Also, people come and people go, people die. It's a fact of life. You don't have to like it and in fact you won't and you will get hurt. Everyone does, trust me. You'll just have to deal with it the best you can. I know from whence I speak, my wife has been gone for a couple of years now and the thought of being with somebody else is not even up for consideration. (I lost her and the kids in a car wreck) Did it hurt? My GOD you have no clue if you haven't been there. Does that mean I'll never trust anyone because they're gone? Of course not.
Do I feel like just disappearing from the face of the earth sometimes? Yes, but I get over it and life goes on. Some days are worse than others but everyday is better than they were when it first happened.
I hope you come to grips with whatever your "demons" are and take it slow. Good luck, regards...Dr.A

Answer 3

I hate answering questions in Philosophy because all the other people here type out enormous responses. I therefore will keep it simple:

People are jackasses. Either you can accept that, run a risk, and trust some of them anyway, or you can live life always an arm's length away from someone, never truly getting to know them. The decision is up to you, but as for me, I choose the former.

Answer 4

Learn to trust in yourself.
People are changeable as you are,
so the only one to trust in all this is yourself.
Not your fickle mind,
but your intuition, your knowing.
Trust in this, it will not let you down.

How you see the world,
is what will be reflected back to you by others and events.

If you think that people lie,
you will attract people in your life to reinforce this.
Also you may not always tell the truth.
Be honest with yourself.

People sometimes explain why they leave.
It is not about them, it is actually about them,
so don't take it on yourself
.
It is a gift when things go out of your life,
life is about change.
We are changing all the time,
and as that happens new takes its place.
Allow the new to come in.

"With the wounds comes wisdom"

Blessings to you.

Answer 5

yes life is all about change and if you don't change you will die. as humans thats our job----now we have people who accept change and they live life with open arms and always seem to be happy---you have those who hate change and they are fighting growth, these type people always have a problem---then you have those that no matter what changes they stay the same. the native americans say to bend in the wind like a young tree or you will snap----i would say accept things that come your way and know it is suppose to be happening at that time. as far as not trusting---we can live in our past like if one person lies they all do but that is not living----the day you stop trusting or loving you will not be living. there are people in my life who lie and they still lie but i just limit my time with them and know they lie---i just have fun no matter what. it may be hard to trust but keep trying and one day you will just get feelings about people---you may already---when you get a weird feeling about someone or something know its not good no matter how you feel--

Answer 6

There's something you need to understand before I can answer this question.

There are different kinds of changes. Minor changes, major changes, changes for the better, changes for the worst.

That being said, it can easily be determined that people do like good changes, probably don't mind minor changes, hate changes for the worst, and may or may not like major changes, depending on the person.

And as for the second half of your details, all I can say is that you are better off trusting to a certain extend or not trusting at all.

Answer 7

Hey, I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend once who was (I thought) super nice...I trusted her and told her lots of stuff. As it turns out...she was all the while telling this other person all the things I had been telling her...Makin me look bad. I was super hurt. I thought I would never trust anyone again. I cried, because I had been terribly deceived, and she knew it too. As the years go by, I have learned that every one is not gonna be diamonds, sometimes they just turn out to be cubic zirconium. Ya know. I learned to move on...and eventually found some one I could trust. And now she is my best friend. I didn't do it by myself though...I prayed and God gave me someone to trust, and healed my hearting heart. With out Him though, I would still be moping around in anguish.
:)

Answer 8

The best guide in the journey of life is our own real self... our soul the atman within. The sweet small inner voice of our soul atman that seems to come from within our heart always guides us on the right path. In the journey of life there can never be a better guide than our soul atman within! Whenever we tend to go wrong... the voice of our soul atman guides us on the right path.

To follow or not to follow is the sole prerogative of every human being. The sweet small inner voice of our soul atman can be distinctly heard by those who follow the path of absolute truthfulness. Most human beings in the present Kali Yuga (the darkened age) powered by their ego suppress the voice of the soul atman within.

Immersed in wanton desires and materialistic riches... such people loose track of life! Having a goal in life is important. In absence of the goal... life is like a rudderless boat that goes round and round in the ocean! Friends may come and friends may go but life goes on forever! Having true friends in life is definitely an asset... lacking them does not mean life becomes meaningless!

When I started in search of God... 13 years of age... I had none to guide me! Traveling the uncharted path of spirituality was a calculated risk... absolutely unknown and fearsome! I had to find God come whatever may in this very life! Friends or no friends... relatives or no relatives... teachers or no teachers... I had to succeed in life at all costs!

25 years later in 1993 I finally realized God. Having reached the end of my cosmic life... the 8.4 millionth manifestation... I can now commune with God on one-to-one basis every second of my life. I have reached the Mount Everest of my spiritual pursuit. Nowhere else to go I shall take salvation (moksha) the moment I leave my mortal frame! More on my Inner Self - http://www.godrealized.org/truce_with_my_inner_self.html