WOULD you stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of your children?

Answer 1

No, I got out of one for the sake of my child.

Answer 2

I agree with you - its not as easy as some people think! You don't really tell much about the marriage but there are some things you can do to improve your own prospects - you have to view your intention to leave as a future plan though and give yourself a specific amount of time to achieve these aims. First of all, you have to work out what is possible - can you get a house nearby at some point in the future so that your children can stay in the same school? If that is possible, how much money will you need for deposits, rental and that sort of thing. Get this research done. Are you able to get a part-time job at some point? Are their possibilities for childcare? Can you get benefits of any kind to help? All of these things need to be investigated. I suspect that your husband may be the controlling type and if thats the case, then you will need to be quite sneaky. If you do have any friends you can turn to, then you could ask them to find out stuff for you - otherwise, you should use the internet at the library or internet cafe but not the one at home (if he checks your history?). Working on your future will give you the strength to keep going - hope is your best weapon. Also, start your squirrel fund - even a few quid tucked away for your 'escape' will help you - it might be hard to hide it so make it odd amounts of change here and there - it will build up. Think also about your prospects - at some point you might have to support these children yourself - can you do any further education courses? Plan away, you will find things might be more possible than you thought! Good luck.

Answer 3

I wouldn't, and Ill tell you why...your children grow up learning there relationship habits from what they see around them and if your miserable, thell know it and think that is how it has to be and there is no true happiness...children grow up better in an environment where the parents are genuinely happy, so when its there time to find a mate thell look for someone who makes them happy and not just someone to satisfy them.

I will first and always advocate working on the marriage...you loved each other once for whatever reason and most of the time people just lose touch with each other and feel like the only way out is out. but hard emotionally draining time's do come, working through it will make the relationship stronger in the end....but if you already tried that...get the hell out and live your life and show those babies that there is more to life then setteling for safety

Answer 4

That's a good question. What is going on in your marriage to make you unhappy??? Your children can tell when there's a problem and it is a very unhealthy situation for them also.
If marriage counseling is out of the question and there's no chance that it can work, at least stay in good terms with their father if at all possible. Almost all the talk shows you see involving dysfunctional children are because they come from broken homes. If there is drugs, alcohol, or abuse those are good reasons. God Bless =)

Answer 5

Nope, that would be more harmful to do. I think if the relationship isn't working out it is best to move on and talk to the child. Staying in an unhappy marriage will only make it worse and more hurtful for all people involved. Plus, relationships like that affects children ideas of relationships, trust me I grew up like that and it wasn't fun. It tends to make children cynical and reserved when dealing with love and relationships.

Answer 6

Personally I would never leave my marriage on account of my being *unhappy* because there are 3 other people in this family, it's not all about me.
If I'm going to take my kids father, their hero, away from them and break my husband’s heart I better have a damn good reason for it.

Look, I’ve been married 13yrs, we have had unhappy times but we work on our relationship because our family matters that's all there is to it.

If you can honestly say you have tried everything to make your marriage work and find happiness again then maybe it is time to say enough. If there is a chance, no matter how slim, it's worth staying and fighting for your marriage and your family.

Answer 7

Depends - how unhappy and how old are your children?

In the most general of terms, it's probably not a great idea to stay in an unhappy marriage regardless.

Good luck, I know this is tough.

Answer 8

I've learned over the years that happiness is a choice. I have to remember that my marriage is NOT my WHOLE life, but a slice of it. Like a whole pie, and marriage is one slice.

If its just plain unhappiness, and there is no infidelity, drugs, alcoholism, porn, etc... then I'd say "yes" stay married, b/c an attitude adjustment can be attained on either spouse. Look at the whole picture. Look at your children and give them stability they need.

Also, there are whole lot of other things in life that can bring you happiness and joy like family, friends, church, hobbies, work, etc...

Answer 9

I would work on making my marriage happy for the sake of my children.

Answer 10

Have been for a few years now... We don't fight in front of our kids or anything, so that's good. But we actually separated last year for about 6 months and it was so hard on our daughter I couldn't do it and took him back for her sake.