Heya! Yeah my 2 friends used to be pretty good friends but now they've fallen out and ***** about each other behind their backs to me and now im caught in the middle! I hate it and i always have to keep secrets from the other one.Its really annoyin and i dont want to lose any of them. Please help!
2007-08-26 08:47:35 · 11 answers · asked by Bumblebee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're only "caught in the middle" if you believe you are. Explain this to both of them ONCE: "I like both of you, and I will continue to like both of you, so I am not interested in any crap you have to say about each other, so don't waste your breaths"...period. Whatever they do about or to each other beyond that is not your responsibility or your concern. (And it probably won't amount to very much because these things usually need an audience to fuel it to survive. Watch and see.)
By the way, Agony Aunt is tripping!
2007-08-26 08:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya ,
i No how ya feel my best mates was like that , if i was you i would talk to each one of em on there own and found out what there problem is with the other on and tell them that your sick of the fights and bitchiness and if they don't stop they could both loose you altogether
if this doesn't work then you should just ignore bitchy comments and change the subject hopefully they'll sort out there differences over time
2007-08-26 09:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both how you feel about being trapped in the middle. If they are good friends they might put their differences behind them when they come to know how all of this is affecting you. Be open and be strong. Good luck!
2007-08-26 11:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with them both and tell them you do not want to know about what they think of each other because it is not fair on you because your in the middle
just be honest with them you never know they may sort this out and make friends again or just keep you out of it so hopefully it may be a little more comfortable for you to be around them without having to watch what your saying
2007-08-26 09:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you wont do it any longer. Just say youre not going to listen to them bitching and you dont want to know any more secrets.
2007-08-26 08:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear. ok you shouldnt have to keep secrets. explain you are going to be friends with both but make a firm rule that you will not talk about one infront of the other
2007-08-26 08:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by thegirlthemyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you just can't do it anymore. Tell them they need to sort things out because you're always in the middle.
2007-08-26 08:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jordin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to both of them that you don't want to loose there friendship but you can't listen to them going on any more and you don't want them to even talk about the other one when they are in your company.
2007-08-26 11:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nads 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say to bouth of them to stop talking about the outher and when they come to tell u about the puther tell hem u can talk about anything apart from them
2007-08-26 10:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell both your friends how unhappy you are with the situation and see if you can maybe get them to kiss and make up.
2007-08-26 09:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋