I can tell what her cries all mean now. If she's laying on the floor for more than 5 minutes, she'll whine until I pick her up. Even if I just sit beside her she'll still whine until I pick her up. Then she will be fine.
2007-08-26 07:17:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Pick her up. They are that little for such little time, and it goes by so fast. Take that time and snuggle up with her.
2007-08-26 07:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by beach mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 3 month old isn't capable of manipulating you, if she needs to be picked up she NEEDS to be picked up. Having you sitting beside her is not the same at all.
http://www.askdrsears.com/search.asp
New parents often ask, "Won't holding our baby a lot, responding to cries, nursing our baby on cue, and even sleeping with our baby spoil her?" Or they ask if this kind of parenting will create an overly dependent, manipulative child? Our answer is an emphatic no. In fact, both experience and research have shown the opposite. Attachment fosters eventual interdependence. A child whose needs are met predictably and dependably does not have to whine and cry and worry about getting his parents to do what he needs.
Dr. Sears suggests: Attachment parenting implies responding appropriately to your baby; spoiling suggests responding inappropriately.
The spoiling theory seems scientific. At least it seemed logical to the childcare "experts" who popularized this idea, beginning in the early part of the 20th century. They thought that if you rewarded crying by picking the baby up, he would cry more, so that he would get picked up more. It turns out that human behavior is a little more complicated than this. It is true that if you carry a newborn baby in your arms much of the time, the baby will protest when put down in the crib. This baby has learned how to feel right, and she lets you know when she needs help getting that feeling back. However, in the long run, this rightness within her will make her less likely to cry for attention. She gets used to feeling right most of the time, and her parent's responsiveness shows her how to recognize her own needs. Spoiling happens when a child is put on the shelf, left alone, forgotten about--the way that food spoils. There was no scientific basis for this spoiling theory, just unwarranted fears and opinions. We would like to put the spoiling theory on the shelf – to spoil forever.
2007-08-26 07:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
even if it is just some love that baby wants you should still pick them up. they still NEED love. when an infant cries tehy need something no matter waht it is. my son is 4 1/2 months and i still pick him up, i would never let him cry this young. once he understands why he is being put down and why i cannot hold him that's a different story
2007-08-26 08:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely pick her up. I had read and then later discovered with my own children that babies who are left to fuss, will fuss more- even as toddlers. Babies who has their needs attended to right away fuss much less and learn more- because they are watching the world. Our baby lived in a sling for awhile because she was so happy there.
2007-08-26 07:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
pick her up if she is on the floor and put her in the swing or bouncy seat you dont want her getting in the habit of you holding her all the time. Just make sure where ever she is she can see you if you are in a different room.
2007-08-26 08:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm...if there is nothing wrong with her, clean, fed, etc, let her whine a little. My son is 4 months and I think he gets frustrated because he wants to move around and sit up. But at the same time, he needs to be encouraged to do this on his own, not me picking him up all the time. If you can be nearby, let her play on her tummy too. My son loves to play on his tummy and already rolls over and is trying to crawl. He is very strong now because of it and his doctor says because of his strength there is almost no chance of SIDS.
2007-08-26 07:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by alikat 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
No, dont pick her up all of the time because she might grow lazy and constantly cry for you to pick her up- only pick her up if you really have to/ sum other reason...Other times, just distract her by playing a game or starting dancing or something!!!!
2007-08-26 08:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Z:) 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Yes. Pick her up.
2007-08-26 07:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Heather R 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pick her up.
2007-08-26 07:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
personally, i would pick her up.. but i also don't feel a baby that young can be spoiled..
2007-08-26 07:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋