Is it really as bad as people make it seem.
2007-08-26 06:37:09 · 23 answers · asked by ****Janina_Be_Rockin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You get out of it what you put into it! I have been married for 5 years, together for 15. I love it. It's a secure life style for me. The house, the children etc... It's not for everyone, and everyone has different reasons for getting married. If you go into it with unrealistic expectations, then your sure to set your marriage up for failure.
2007-08-26 06:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married life is GREAT for the first couple of years, THEN, you relax more, and let your bad side show, it seems. But, marriage is about forgiveness, and standing by each other, and working together on a life of unity. My husband and I have had some BIG fights, but, we are in this to STAY. I think that all in all, marriage is the most wonderful thing!!!! Too many people give up, and look for someone who will make them feel young and attractive again. But, that is foolish. Marriage is a committment (living together is NOT---it is still PLAYING HOUSE), and those who talk bad about marriage, have a lot to learn about it. That is MY opinion.
2007-08-26 14:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what was the reason for the marriage in the first place. You get what you ask for, and you receive what you put into it. If you marry for the sake of sex or money then it will die of those causes. There has to be more, there has to be a deeper interest for both parties. Or it will be as bad as people make it.
2007-08-26 13:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I believe in marriage and for what it stands, I don't think marriage is for everyone. Not everyone should get married, and not everyone should have children, either...
Marriage is fantastic when the two people in it are totally commited to each other and to making it work. (But unfortunately, many people marry for the wrong reasons and end up being miserable because they chose badly.) Bitter people who have been hurt are understandably cynical about marriage, that's why you hear it's so bad. But you should take things from where they come....
So open your eyes well and don't settle....Respect yourself and look for someone you can respect, love, admire and cherish.....And who feels like this for you, too. Cheers!
2007-08-26 13:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can be great when you both are committed to loving each other and respecting each other.
I think you really should take time to get to know someone before you marry them, but then again after marriage sometimes people change.
There are no guarantees, but if marriage was like God intended it to be, everyone would want it.
Somedays marriage seems great and somedays it seems awful, but then isn't that how it is being single?
2007-08-26 13:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by doubting 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will we will start first round with first wife for 7 years the first year was great then after we had kids all hell broke lose 2ND marriage been going great 10 years but sex life sucks you fill like you do ever thing and the other get to set back and witches you do it all so you think about it but ever ones marriage is different so good luck
2007-08-26 14:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by hancockerik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married life can be wonderful if its with the right person.
I've been with my spouse for 25 years and cannot imagine life without him.
It takes years two people willing to work on problems and sometimes agreeing to disagree.
Marriage is great but is not always easy.
2007-08-26 13:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by m s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not...being married is wonderful if you have the right person...I haven't plucked up the courage to remarry after a very nasty first marriage but we do live as if we are married.
We share everything, laugh, pick each other up when a crisis looms, he is my best friend and my soul mate...and not to mention my lover.
Being married is wonderful if you have the right guy
2007-08-26 13:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive never had anyone say that married life was bad. i personally enjoy it. especially when i wake up in the mornings and my husband is still alseep and i get to cuddle with him and wake him up that way. I love my husband a whole lot!!
2007-08-26 13:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Savanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who you marry is 90% of your hapiness. Choose well and you have someone to celebrate with when times are good and someone to help you, console you when times are bad. I chose extremely well and have been so satisfied for 30 years.
2007-08-26 13:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dusie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋