I am happy with my wife. But still looking for young girls for some fun is that ok?

Question

I AM HAPPY WITH MY WIFE BUT STILL I LOOK AROUND FOR YOUNG BEAUTIFUL GIRLS WHENEVER I AM ALONE. I FEEL I CAN ATTRACT HER EASILY AND MANY A TIMES IT HAPPENS AS GIRLS SHOWS INTEREST IN ME BUT I AM AFFRAID OF HURTING MY WIFE SO I HAVE NOT MADE ANY MISTAKE YET. TELL ME WHAT CAN I DO ?

Answer 1

you are headed down a slippery slope toward divorce.. love your wife and be happy with her.. don't think about being with younger girls..

Answer 2

I think you have to look at the reasoning behind your looking elsewhere. You are human. It's okay to look and find someone attractive. However, what you do with that is up to you. If looking is endangering your marriage, then don't look at all. It's better than the consequences. Just ask yourself, "is one brief moment of pleasure with another woman worth losing everything I have?" Also, "how would I feel if my wife did this to me?"

My father adored my mother, but couldn't keep his you-know-what in his pants. (Plus he brought home STD's in the process.) Finally she left him. She couldn't take it any more. He was absolutely devistated. Then when she remarried, he nearly lost it. He was in a string of bad relationships even before she got remarried. I found out later that he said it made him feel good to be desired/needed by someone. But he failed to realize he was already desired by the woman he was with already. The same with my ex-husband. He cheated on me thinking he was missing something. After the third time, I left him. I discovered that, in my life, once a cheater always a cheater. Well, he's been sorry ever since and I would never take him back, EVER. So, if you truely love your wife, be faithful. Get counseling to find the root of the problem. Maybe talk to your wife with a counselor. Avoid looking in the meantime till you can get things resolved.

Answer 3

You say you are happy with your wife, love is a deeep affection, in marriage it is a committment that you give your wife your loyality. Is your happiness any way less from the three minute enjoyment you get sleeping around? Why would you compromise on your happiness??? Is it worth it? If you cheat on your wife, eventually you will start doubting your wife if she even talks with someone. Because you cheated on her. If you dont sleep around it is the respect you are showing the woman who is at home waiting for you.
You wife may not be as beautiful as the women you see outside, but she does have good qualities, she gives you a sense of belonging, care and genuine love. Perhaps you could improve your sex life with your wife, sex without guilt is better after all. It only builds better bonds.

Answer 4

Ignore them! Be flattered they are interested, but point out ur married and don't want to jepordize ur marriage and move on! Ur wife and family should be important enough to u to stay faithful. Atleast u realize u'll hurt ur wife, so just don't do it. When temptation comes, call ur wife at home, and tell her how much u love her, and miss her, and want HER. Then go to the bathroom, and well.....enjoy urself! THere is no need to cheat on someone, and then feel guilty about it. Besides, in today's day and age, it's safer to be monogamous! Be happy u have a wife who loves u, nd don't screw that up with a night or two of pleasure do to ur lack of control. Or hey, just keep controlling urself, then go home, and I'm sure she'll rock ur world. Good luck.

Answer 5

I bet with all those answers telling you its WRONG to cheat on your wife, u'll still be looking for one answer to tell u that its ok,!u're fooling urself, apparantly u still have a conscious, or u wouldnt have asked this question, you urself called it a mistake, and it definately is a huge mistake, its ok to look at and fantasize about other women, but thats it, if u feel u need to look FOR someone else, then u haven't found what u need, i think its better to leave ur wife than cheat on her, and i'm sure u dont wana do that since as u mentioned u're happy with her, talk to her and try to spice things up a little, obviously all u need is some adventure... adventure with ur wife, it'll feel much better! goodluck and dont cheat!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You are going to cheat on her and hurt her in the long run. So, the question is, do you want to hurt her now or wait until kids are involved and hurt the entire family?

Its time for a divorce, because you are obviously are not happy with being monogamous, which is what marriage is... Monogamy.

If she doesn't "own" you then you don't "own" her. Divorce here or get the marriage annulled, anything... Just let her go so that you can have sex with girls until you want to grow up.

Answer 8

Remember the quote - "Do unto others what you would want them to do to you"!
Friend if you can feel comfortable if your wife does the same on you and you would still be happily in love and marriage with your wife, then I think you shouldnt feel guilty. But if your wife isnt the one doing the same on you and you to would be devastated if she does the same on you then please gain self control over your other feelings for other girls. We belong to the superior race of human beings otherwise we too are animals, but we have been endowed with the brain which allows us to rationalise and think and then act. We are'nt living in the Jungle World so please use your ability to evaluate and respect your wives existence in your life and then act. I am sure you will have the solution to your query. All the best.

Answer 9

It's one thing to look and flirt. We all do it's just human. Pursuing is different and should not be done. You will end up ruining your marriage and life. You may think the grass is greener but it never is. If you're lucky enought to find a great wife then be happy with it, i.e. if you win the lottery don't complain about the taxes.

Answer 10

You are not alone. I think you account for at least 95% of blokes.... at least what i know.

If you are happy with your wife then you need to keep it in your pants. If your wife finds out, it will just cause pain and upset which you will in the future will regret.

I always say there is no harm in window shopping.... just as long as you dont steal.
Look but dont touch ...... and for christ sake, dont let your wife read your message.

It is nice to look at differant women. Lets face it, us men are all the same.
But as i said, if you are happy, try your best to keep away from the beutiful girls.........

oh... and wear sun block!!

good luck in the future

Answer 11

Hi.....I think you are playing with fire...yes...I am comparing the married life to fire...you know why...once you loose the trust on your partner or nobody can trust you like before....especially the trust between the man and woman....can you imagine about your wife ..if she is having an affair even in the enitial stage....and then she stoped this affiar forever....but can you trust your wife like before....

you are interested to stare at young girls...if you didnt stop this habit right now...its going to ruin your life.,

and I belive you are not matuared enough to get marry and settled...that is why ....you / your mind want to jump from this branch to another everytime.