do i have a right to feel violated?

Question

i was away from home all day on friday and most of saturday. when i got back home, my parents had gone through everything that was lying around in my room. i had personal notes from other people that had things in them that i had never mentioned to my parents, and notebooks that had some of my most personal papers and thoughts in. all of those papers as well as everything else in my room had been sorted through.

i feel like very exposed to them, because they went through private things, and i told them that. they think i'm overreacting, but i don't think that i am. they said that they didn't read anything, but that's almost impossible, because a lot of bare papers were picked up and put into piles...

what do you think?

some of the answers reminded me that it is indeed their house, and they have the right to do that. but i still wish that they would've given me some privacy and let me keep those things to myself.

Answer 1

I think you have a right to feel violated, because you were. Even though you're a minor you have a right to some privacy. If your parents think you are using drugs Or doing some sort of illegal activities I could understand their going through your things. if You have not been doing anything wrong there is no reason to go Through your things.

I guess you can't keep anything that you want personal in your room. You're going to have to live with this until you can move away. I know how this feels because my mother made my life miserable and I moved away from home the day I graduated high school.

Answer 2

In my opinion I'd say that you DO have a right to feel violated, because even though it is their house and whatever, you are still entitled to your privacy and it is not cool that they did that, I also don't think you're overreacting because if they wanted to know what was going on in your life they could've just asked you (and if they trusted you they would believe what you tell them) instead of going through your stuff while you were away.

I hope this answer helped,

✭gabydt8✭

Answer 3

i do no longer possibly sense violated. I do sense the could desire to particular my opinion on the question I spoke back,that I gained the violation for,it pisses me off whilst some human beings abuse this type of entertainment on the internet 'Y/A' it somewhat is. And asked questions regarding sexual positions or sexual nature too boot. and not in any respect obtain any style of punishment what-so-ever. yet heaven forbid you answer a stupid question with a humorous answer or limerick,and you get a contravention observe.

Answer 4

I totally understand what you are saying. Your parents want to know something but they probaly feel like if they ask you will not tell them or be truthful about it so they went through your room to see if they could find out. I suggest talk to your parents if possible let them know that you would be truthful about what they want to know as long as they do not violate your space. I agree I would feel violated to. But they have to understand as well going through your stuff is not going to make yall relationship better but worst. You also have to understand you are there child and they are probaly just worried about you they need to have some peace in knowing what is going on in your life

Answer 5

You have aright to be angry and violated, Just because there your parents doesent give them a right to violate your privacy, I hate that parents feel that were not supposed to have some sort of privacy or they dont have to respect us, thats when parents go wrong.

Answer 6

Yes, i do think that was totally unfair. it's kind of like hacking into someone's email, and reading everything. Also from now on, you might want to keep your more personal items, i.e notes and journals in a safer place, like on the top shelf ofyour closet.

Answer 7

I don't think your parents were right for invading your privacy. Just because its their house doesn't mean that they have to invade your privacy

Answer 8

I say they care enough to want to know what your doing, and as long as your not 18 and self sufficient ya they have every right. You live there its their rules. Someday when they are old and have to live with you then its your house your rules.

Answer 9

I think you have every right to your privacy...your parents should be ashamed of themselves

Answer 10

yes. well you are violated from your privacy and they should've asked you first. it is being rude to intrude without permission. its really much better to ask first.