I'm in my last year of high school. I have a friend who now ignores me because of someone else. We've been friends for about 8 years now. Just some months ago, a new person called Jade, started my school. My friend, dave, became good friends with her. Now all of a sudden he has completely forgotten me. He even passes me in corridors without even saying a word to me. He deleted my contact from his yahoo messenger. Now i just found out he had a birthday party and didn't even invite me? how can that be??? we tell each other everything. I'm really sad about it, and now i don't even know whether i want anymore friends, if that's what friendship is all about, i'd rather be alone. He recently sent me a three word email saying 'how's it going'. But i didn't reply. He pretends as if he doesn't know what he's done. I think i'm done with friends as this isn't the first time this has happened. Maybe i'm better off alone.
2007-08-26 03:56:09 · 17 answers · asked by Dyana 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
friends who ignore you are not called friends
2007-08-26 04:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, this happens with adults too! On the last day of my daughter's school year, I was talking to someone I thought was my friend, and when I was in mid sentence she just turned around and walked away. She did this twice in one hour. She went over to join the 'In crowd'. Yes, this happens in adult crowds. But I figure this is a good thing, because at least I know where I stand and can move on to real friends.
People are so afraid of being uncool or rejected from their crowd, that when they find out that a friend is not accepted by the cool crowd, they'll snub them. However, this is nothing to be proud of and is actually a sign of cowardice.
Take this as a sign that you are an original even though it hurts like hell to lose your friend. Whatever you do, don't conform to their way of exclusion and bullying just to win their empty friendship back. You will find new friends that will grow with you and not reject you.
Don't waste anymore time with this 'friend', as the damage is done and he will only hurt you more if you try to win him back. Especially if he doesn't seem to know what is wrong.
This sounds cheesy, but watch 'Napolean Dynamite' and you'll see that you can become the 'In crowd' by just being a good person and without the need for those rejecting 'friends'.
Why don't you try joining a sports team or a club after school? There it will be so easy to make friends with people who share your own interests. And the added bonus is when you become the allstar player on your team, then those losers will want so badly to be your friend, but you can tell them, 'The dick with you. I have real friends now!'
Good luck!
2007-08-26 04:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to say that. I think you should email him or tell him in face about how you feel and you feel being ignored, plus why is he acting like that. Its like Addition, Real friends don't subtract each other for a new one, instead add more friends together. But to my point of view I would confront him and tell/ask him whats going on, and if it feels like he really doesn't like to be friends anymore, just move on with your life. I move every year and make new friends all the time. My father is a traveling Physical Therapist. And been moving around since I was 10. I'm almost one year done of my high school, and about to be mother, and also getting married soon. Cheer up, theres more to life :)
From a Traveling person and about to be mother.
2007-08-26 04:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by ^__^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon!
I'm sorry that Dave hurt you..Sometimes, people are thoughtless..They don't mean any harm..They just don't think..
When Dave met this girl, he probably liked her more than just a friend..And probably devoted all his time to her..
There's nothing wrong with that, but in doing so, he thoughtlessly forgot his good and dear friend..You!
By the time he came off cloud 9..He was probably so embarrassed, how he ditched his friends..That he couldn't face them anymore..That's probably why he sent you that 3 word email..
I don't know why he couldn't say hi to you in the corridor, or deleted you from his Yahoo messenger..That was silly.
Well, it's his loss..Good friends are hard to come by..and someday he's going to kick himself in the a--, when he realizes what he's done..and when he needs a real friend to talk to..
In the meantime, my dear, you will be starting college before long, making new friends and acquaintances..Entering a new phase in your life..
Forget about Dave..He's just an inconsiderate jerk..Get on with your life, and make some new friends..
Everyone needs someone in this world..And NO!..you're not better off alone..Right now, your hurt..But you will get over it..
Time heals all wounds, and it will heal this one..
Take care Hon..and enjoy what's left of this summer!
2007-08-26 05:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's protecting you from him. Perhaps he's revealing his true nature and character, so that you know his real depths.
It's a compliment if Jade thinks you're a threat. Maybe Dave's previous strong attachment for you makes her uncomfortable. She's eliminating the competition.
It could also be that Dave is a new person. You remind him of his old self, or pull him back to some level that he's not comfortable with.
If you were friends, be happy for that. Be grateful that he's alerted you to his true character. Maybe he did that as an act of real friendship. He's saying, "Get away from me, I'm not worth it."
2007-08-26 04:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by CHARLES T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do some friends just ignore you like that??? it's unbelievable.?
2014-12-09 16:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am twice over high school, yeah I'm old and soon I can go to a 25 year reunion if they had one
I did have friends change on me since today's americana culture is based on shallow values, later we are friends again, very surprised..
hang in there dude
2007-08-26 04:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by voice_of_reason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, forgive him. He may truly think he hasn't done anything wrong.
Second, ask him why these things have happened.
You may learn that you do things that people don't like or you may learn that things aren't the way you see them.
If you don't ask, you don't know.
The friendship may be over or it may be strengthened. One thing is sure, you won't ever find out if you don't ask.
2007-08-26 04:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to "Rana" you are going through a stage that we all have gone through no matter. Friends will always come and go..there will be some that will remain..One day you are going to bump into these present friends that you say are ignoring you and hopefully you reminisces and laugh about it. I am way past your years and presently i still remain in contact with one high school friend amazingly she is always the one to remember special events in my family. Wait till you taste college life you are going to have a blast! And a whole new world of friends!
2007-08-26 04:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens to EVERYONE at the end of highschool. i only have maybe like...2 to 4 friends left from my highschool days. its normal, you go off into real life and realize highschool is a joke and make all new friends when you go off to college or work in the real life. dont worry about it, take this as an opportunity to start fresh, trust me, the friends you make at work and college will stay with you more then people from highschool, its just a new phase in your life.
2007-08-26 04:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by creepout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really sorry to hear that...maybe he is just going thru some phase, just don't let what he does give you a bad lookout on everyone, good luck
2007-08-26 04:02:29 · answer #11 · answered by yahooligan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋