If someone offends you,how do you react?

Question

do you pretend they didnt?
or say something back to them,like tell them you found what they said offensive.
Its even worse when people are so blunt to you when other people are there.
also how do you react to the person ,in the future-stay away,or purposely insult them?
I am confused because I dont know how to be to someone who has I feel insulted me,but has also done a lot for me in the past.

Answer 1

I would tell them and then walk away from them

Answer 2

If this person has done a lot for you in the past and is a good friend, I would ignore the insult and put it down to her/him being in a bad mood or something. However, if it happens again then you should say something. I find this is a good line to use with anyone who has upset you. Calmly say to them "what you just said has really upset me - why did you say that?". That will stop them in their tracks and they will have no option but to justify themselves. It will make you look calm and in control and they will look really nasty and shown up.

If people at work upset me - I get my own back by pretending to talk about someone else in a derogatory way but I am really talking about them - they know it but they can't prove it!

Answer 3

Doing a lot in the past for you does not mean that person has to talk to you in that manner. If that person is a friend, at the time he/she said those awful words I would not say anything until you are alone with him/her, then tell that person that you did not appreciate they way he/she spoke to you earlier. If that person is a friend he/she will realise that he/she was in the wrong and apologise or give a reason for his/her behaviour.

Answer 4

Most of the time I do not act immediately. I either act I didn’t understand the insult or it didn’t offend me and walk away (defeated or meekly). I act when the time is in my favor. I also think about the proverb “every dog has a day” when I walk away defeated or meekly.

Answer 5

Just consider how would be the best way this story could end into (between you and the other person). Then do what will help the most in order to reach this best outcome.

Forget what the others think.

Answer 6

When someone offends me, I try and be calm and let them know to stop and not to do it again. If they don't refrain, I turn the heat to them and use anything possible to knock them off their high horse to make them see that they are no better than me or anyone else for that matter.

Answer 7

hi,my answer for your nice question is , be strong enough to be calm and not giving out your revenging emotions very immmediatly at ahe time you crossed . if you are supported there seek immediate possible solution for the mistake committed by them. otherwise
leave the thing to NATURE. it "LL take care everything as right action for the actions. touching bad things is ever danger for us only noy to the bad things

Answer 8

i would just say "what's that supposed to mean" in a joking way (not a pissed way), so that the person knows that i was not fazed by their insult. if this person has done a lot for you in the past, it is probably best for you to address him/her straight on and ask him/her what his/her problem is, and why he/she is giving you bullshit.

Answer 9

I give them another chance, but if they make a habit of being rude/offensive/insulting, I cut them out of my life.

Answer 10

Being offended is a choice. But don't stand for someone being aggressive. They are not worth it. Say something to them if you want but, being offended is a choice, you know that you are good.

Answer 11

I would just ignore it if it is a one time thing. However, if it happens multiple times, I would confront them and tell them politely what I want to say.