I know that I have pretty bad self esteem issues (living in a new town and not having too many friends yet), but I can seem to keep these issues in check until I get drunk. I have been dating an amazing guy for about 6 months. He gives me no reason not to trust him, he cares about me a lot and he never lies to me or does anything behind my back. He is so open and honest and loving towards me. So of course -- he's generally nice to everyone. I think that most girls take this as him flirting w/ them -- and I do too. Whenever we drink together (which is often, like 3-4 times a week probably) I start fights w/ him b/c I'm so jealous. What can I do? Do you think we should just not drink together anymore ?I don't want to lose him.
2007-08-26 03:25:47 · 18 answers · asked by xx kiss me cait xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First I would think about what you want to do with your life. Get some direction and some goals.
Get help for the drinking because it doesn't sound like it's working out for you. Cut down or quit if you can and if you can't, find a treatment program.
With the self-esteem and jealousy, find a good therapist to get this figured out. They go hand in hand so the therapist may have some good tools to help you out.
2007-08-26 03:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting back on the drinking together would definitely help. You also need to work on your self esteem problems. That is the root of your jealousy when you are drunk. Alcohol is a depressant and so if you are already down on yourself it only makes it worse when you add the alcohol. You see other women as better than you and you are afraid that your bf will see it too. You need to learn where your alcohol cut off is so that you can stop your consumption before it gets to the arguing point. It sounds like you have landed a great guy.
2007-08-26 03:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound u really love him so much
I think u been drinking too much
Which is not good for your health
So does the relationship
Why dont you both engage in some other activities to be together?
Like dancing class or sports or volunteer work or etc
About most girls flirting with him ...hmm
The best way let him decide it good to know his true colour before marriage :)
2007-08-26 03:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
have you spoke to him about all this?
Maybe you should take a break from drinking together because the last thing u wanna do is push him away!
Also, try to think of it like this, by the end of every day or night, he's going home with you, so nothing else matters!
2007-08-26 03:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by MiXED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and you are meant to be with each other it will work it self out, don't worry! You may try to figure out something you guys can do with each other that doesn't envolve alcohol. Go for a walk, a movie, bowling, anything! You must understand the feelings you have inside are normal, everyone shares these feelings. You just seem do deal with them differently! always remember women are going to try to be with your man as well men with you. keep your trust and you will be fine, the answers are inside you!
2007-08-26 03:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Dollar Saver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a grip on what the problem is and that's a good thing.
A female friend of mine used to behave badly whenever she drank hard liquor. She switched to drinking beer and it didn't have the same effect on her. Maybe you should try a different beverage and see if it makes a difference in the way you behave.
2007-08-26 03:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same vote. I am very jealous person. I am trying to get rid of it. So I cut out drinking and drugs. If thats the case on your boyfriend. Well i say have a long talk with him. See someone about this jealous problem and get rid of it.
2007-08-26 03:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tim Fitz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-12 12:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy solution. don't get drunk. It will totally become a habit and an addiction. then whenever you feel bad you will go get drunk. then you will lose all control over your life
2007-08-26 03:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Vacationer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shift to drinking gingerale.
You can't handle alcohol.
He's much more important than that drink.
You can drink "virgin" drinks as well.
You obviously cannot stop at one, so none is your only option.
2007-08-26 04:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋