friends fat wife?

Question

my friend has a fat wife and he goes to the gym everyday and hes skinny, he told me thats its not fair that he goes to the gym and she just sit around the house, i agree with him, how can we make her relies she is not bein fair

hes not a gym rat ,were both doctors so we just go to the gym cause its there

this is only yahoo its not like writing important stuff

no they have a maid that cleans the house

Answer 1

by doing this ....MYOB..
it's none of your concern. it's between them, butt out!

Answer 2

Do they have children? Does he offer to watch the kids while she goes to the gym? It's probably difficult to coordinate how ever many kids, get them dressed, into the car, deal with all their questions and attitudes, pay for the gym day care to watch them, work out, then try and round them all up when they're having fun at the gym and put them back in the car and back home so she can prepare the meal for dinner. Tell him to watch the kids so she can go and relax. That way it's sort of a relief and a vacation. Because she probably thinks it's unfair that he gets to go without all the hassle she has to deal with. Good luck to her and tell your friend to stop being such a conceited jerk. It's pretty crappy that he talks about his problems with his wife with you and degrades her that way. He must not think very much of her and if I were him I wouldn't worry about changing her b/c we all know it's only a matter of time before he leaves her anyway because he doesn't respect her as a woman, a wife, a mother, or as a person in general. Just leave the poor woman alone and Mind your own business.

Answer 3

First of all if he married her and she was fat then I don't see why it is a concern now. He chooses to go to the gym, no one makes him do so. Instead of complaining about being at the gym while she sits on the couch why doesn't he suggest simply going for a walk with his wife. Perhaps she won't want the pressure of being a fat girl at the gym with her fit husband. She won't be able to keep up and so she will be miserable. If he chooses to do physical activities with her that she can keep up with and that she may find fun, like taking a long walk with her husband, then she will be more likely to go along. Plus he won't make her feel unloved or unwanted and it won't seem so insulting. Not to mention the brownie points he'll get for suggesting they spend romantic time together.

Answer 4

It is not fair that he goes to the gym every day and leaves his wife home - why doesn't he try to help her by going walking together, going to shopping malls together to get exercise, maybe he could help with her diet, maybe he could talk to her about the problem and maybe he could stop being unfair and playing with his friends at the gym. Your question is really mixed up, this is really NONE of your business anyway.

Answer 5

apart from the fact that you sound like a rude pig!if your friend loves his wife then he wouldn't consider whats she does as unfair, its all good and well to say he goes to the gym and stays skinny and fit but not everyone enjoys exercise of any type(i love going to the gym and walks but i wouldn't push it on everyone )but if you are both doctors and from a health point of view with some tact HE could consider helping her realise for her own health to start going for a walk together and slowly find something that she might like doing rather than the gym. bike riding swimming or just a long walk everyday. But only for her own health and happiness not because its unfair to him.

Answer 6

This sounds somewhat shallow to me. replaced into his spouse fat while they met or did she get fat while they have been married. If she replaced into already fat then he shouldn't anticipate something diverse now. If she have been given fat while they have been given married i might advise he take a seat down and confer together with her approximately it. locate out if something has replaced and if there is something he can do to help her. enable her understand that he's worried approximately her well-being. you probably did say he replaced right into a doctor. as a techniques via fact the well-being club is going this is his decision. He won't have the capacity to rigidity her to circulate to the well-being club. it must be that she is self unsleeping and can sense very uncomfortable going to a well-being club with a number of skinny people. in line with probability he can advise she circulate to Curves or another well-being club for women folk people. some everybody is only intimidated by using gyms. there is a number of stuff at them and that's overwhelming understanding the place to commence. He could additionally advise attempting something like strolling each night. this is an elementary and occasional effect exercises and if she starts to shrink weight it would inspire her to do something else to shrink weight. exceptionally he ought to confer together with her. Complaining to you of course isn't changing something.

Answer 7

It's really her own decision whether or not she wants to work out, you know.

If she is fat, like seriously fat, then I would say drop a few hints. You, the friend, NOT the husband.

I believe that women take criticism seriously when it is heard from someone not too close to them, so if she really is on the unhealthy side, a few hints never hurt.

+ Are you sure she is just sitting around the house? To me, it seems like she might be doing chores and housework.

Answer 8

Without getting a female in on this I can tell you two are heading for a disaster. You need to say nothing to her at all, him on the other hand needs to be more about the issue of health and he needs to approach her like come with me and we can do this together or he needs to tell her he wants her to be healthy so they will have a long life together and so on. I would get a friend of hers involved in it and see if she can get somewhere first. And quit using the word fat, by using that word and she somehow here's her being referred to as the fat wife will totally blow any self esteem she may have had. Good luck.

Answer 9

Maybe she feels comfortable with herself not to change. I understand that its very unhealthy for a person to sit around all day and not do anything. I personally do not work out everyday, however I am not overweight. I hate working out in the gym, and maybe thats her problem. Your friend should talk to his wife and let her know that he is concerned. I hope that your friend is not doing this because he is embarassed by her looks. He should try envolving her in other physical activity other than the gym. I wish you guys luck.

Answer 10

he's into exercising and gym stuff, then she must be into doing dishes, laundry and lifting baskets of cloths, pushing a vacuum cleaner, and house cleaning of all sorts and this to is called excersice, maybe not in a gym but still it takes energy to do. keeping him happy by doing these things around the house isn't really considered sitting around.
is he looking @ it this way or just assuming she sits around the house. he really needs to know what she does do while hes away at the gym and take it from there.

Answer 11

I know where she is coming from. My husband walks and looses weight, he's not a heavy person. I have always had a weight problem. I also have low thyroid, and arthritis, my knees are almost ready for knee replacement and I have terrible pain in almost all joints in my body. Unless she is really a lazy person with no pains I can understand why she doesn't try to keep up with his lifestyle. It's from PAIN! I can't even walk with my husband and your talking the GYM?? It's not right for you to put questions on answers if you think they are not important!! Some of us do try to answer truthfully and to help other people. Others ask and answer stupid.