should a wife have a personal life that the husband and kids cant be a part of?

Answer 1

Ounce you are married to someone you should be considered as one person.

Answer 2

it depends on what that personal life is and how much time it takes
but basically
no
her life has changed the day she married
and more so the day she has kids
her number 1 responsibility is to her husband, then herself, then the kids

and it may sound selfish
but it is not
here is why
the hubby is number 1 since he is the bread winner
what incentive ( and it's not he kids as men will walk ) does he have to work hard all his life and come home to crap from th wife or no sexual desire from him? after a while he gets the picture and either cheats or leaves...
the wife is number 2, she needs to take care of herself in a physical and mental way so that she does not burn our from handling a household
this in turn will keep the kids in a safe and secure environment
but the fact is
not all women are truly cut out to be wifes and mothers
many of them now a day have this independent thing going on and thus take on major careers and expect everything to go fine
they often leave the husband to fend for himself when he comes home
and as such he will
and that may include the company of other women
while she has her personal interests
now you know why the divorce rate is so high
(50% and higher )
and why there are more singles and people living together than those getting married, men have waken up to the fact that they are not number 1 in a marriage and marriage benefits the women ( financially ) more than the man

Answer 3

Yes but depend on a situation & time consume.

If it regarding work matters of coz that is a must.

A wife is a human being who need to breath beside juggling work & family & house matter 24 hours 7 days per week without any leave to take.

The only way for a huby who hate the wife work he should earn more money than her & can afford her wants.

Normally the wife start to find outside entertainment due too much pressure with the family

or the huby start to take the wife for granted

things will get worst if you dont try settle things by now

Try talk to her & ask her why she do this to you & kids?

Some woman really didnt know how to explain how bad they been hurt so they try something else to let go the pain :)

If she going out alone like 2x per month i think that common

Answer 4

She should have a personal life, but not too much of one. If she is staying home with the kids during the day, she'll need to get out away from the kids for her own sanity. But if she's constantly leaving you alone with the kids, that's not fair to you. If you work hard and your weekends aren't enjoyable but always having no wife and the kids annoying you, that's not good.
You should do more things as a family like day trips or going out to eat or just enjoying each other's company. Getting a babysitter and going on dates as a married couple is good too.
It's difficult to have a personal life after you have kids. If you go with your buddies to a bar, then your wife is stuck with the kids unless you're rich and have nannies.

Answer 5

Should? It's not required if not desired... If desired sure. My very good friend's wife. Belongs to a church, he does not. She does charity work, he does some. She has a part time job, belongs to a book club etc. He has a few things he belongs to as well. They have a strong and wonderful marriage.

A person is multi-dimensional and can do personal, family and civic interests. This makes for an interesting fulfilled life.

Answer 6

Well, if we guys can have a "boys night out" where we play poker or pool... then a lady should have the same.. if it were geared towards some meeting with their girlfriends doing planning or interior designing, or attending seminars...

But if it were to be used for activities with malicious intent.. i'd say no... since i would never use "personal time" to do something that could hurt my wife and kids, should i ever have a wife and/or kids... :) _

Answer 7

Absolutely. Not only is she a Mother and a Wife. But she's a Friend, Sister, Daughter. She should be able to spend time with her friends or do something on her own with out you or the kids. She is a person too. Just as you, should be able to spend time with out her and the kids. It works two ways.

Answer 8

It depends on what kind of personal life you mean. If your wife wants an hour a day to herself to read magazines, watch TV or journal - that's fine and perfectly reasonable. If your wife wants an hour a day to workout or go outside for a walk, that's fine.

But if she wants to go out with her friends, party, get drunk, go to nightclubs - then no, that's absolutely not right and should not be allowed. Her first priorities should always be you and your kids.

Answer 9

Yes. If it is an innocent kind of thing, like taking classes at the college, going to the gym, doing things with family or friends. Things that recharge her energy and help her be a better wife and mother. I would say no if you mean internet chatting or going to the bars.

Answer 10

It is important that both the husband and wife have their own lives aside from the family. You need to maintain your independence and personal identity. Just because you get married and have children doesn't mean you don't get to be yourself anymore.

Now, if she is going out and having an affair or keeping weird secrets, that isn't normal. But you have to have your own lives!

Answer 11

they shouldn't have a life separate kids and husband, they should just have a personal life that their kids and husband aren't in as much. They should still be part of it, just not alot.