My 22 year old son was murdered June 11, 2007. The murder was caught on video tape at a local gas station. The suspect remained a fugitive for almost 2 months. He was arrested, hiding in an abdoned crack house on August 4, 2007. We've gone to court twice now and practically his entire family show up with "attitude" rolling eyes, smacking lips, saying and mumbling things, starring and grimming us. We don't feel intimidated for the most part. But you would think they would be humble and why say anything to us. We are hurt enough. My son was killed in "cold blood". Their son is charged with Murder in the 1st. This is the most ignorant and low mentality family I have sat this close to. How about this, the mother of this low life got arrest right in the court room on this past Friday on a felony warrant. The judge did dismiss us and let no one hear the preliminary exam because of threats to the witnesses, etc. so he let us go first and get off the property and made them wait 20 minutes.
2007-08-26 02:48:09 · 5 answers · asked by kd 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Let me say first off, i am so sorry about your loss. The thing is they are always in the state of denial when it comes to horrific crimes such as murder and cannot in their deepest thoughts think that their family member could have committed the crime. In any event after reading the further details you provided, they just an ignorant bunch and he probably really has no good examples set for him, considering the mother had had an outstanding felony warrant. Chin up, you will survive that bunch and get the justice deserved. I know it is tough but don't let them get to you. This is what they want. It is joy for them to see you react to their shenanigans. I'll say a prayer for you. The thing is so far, you have had the strength to be there to seek justice for you child.
2007-08-26 03:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by thequeenreigns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please permit me to begin by saying how terribly sorry I am for your loss - this happened so recently and your emotions must be terribly raw - so brave of you to share this with the community.
To answer your question - and while I don't agree with their behavior, it is the reason - as much as you loved your son, they love theirs. You had unconditional love for your son and while you may have disliked some of his choices, you would always love him, no matter what. The man who took your son's life is someone else's son. They dislike what he did but they love him unconditionally. They know that what he did was so wrong and so unforgivable, but they haven't come to terms with what he has done yet, either. To think that someone you raised to be a good person could take the life of another human is inconceivable and their emotions are still raw too. They are not behaving as they should because they too are still in shock. I know this is a difficult thing to hear from a stranger, but.... forgive them. They know not what they do. Forgive them because it heals your heart. Forgive them because to do so shows them what an amazing person you are and what an amazing person your son was. Show them the way out of this hell that their son has created for both families. And understand that forgiving them in no way excuses their behavior or says that it's alright. The forgiveness is to free you from them.
With all my heart and soul I pray for you and your family and I pray that God will surround your family with protection and shower you with some sense of peace. May God Bless.
2007-08-26 03:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by odechiro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I have heard numerous times, ignorance breeds ignorance. Your said it yourself with the mother having a felony warrant. They believe the world owes them everything and "things" just happen out of their control. I am sorry that you have to personally go through this and the loss of your son. Hopefully justice will prevail.
2007-08-26 02:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's just the only way they know how to behave. They don't know the pain you are going through and honestly, neither do i. Just tell yourself that whatever they do, it does not matter. Let them be. I am so sorry for your loss.
2007-08-26 02:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Shane {SHINE ON} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. This family sounds dysfunctional.
I am sorry you lost your son. My thoughts are with you.
2007-08-26 02:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Francine Frensky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋