Do you agree all engaged couples should?.....?

Question

All be required to take a 3 month course on marriage and what it's really all about. Do you think this would downsize the divorce rate? Do you think the age your allowed to get married should be increased as well? Give my ? a star if you agree.

Answer 1

Hi -

No I don't think taking a 3 month course would help. People get married for many different reasons. The ones that truly marry for love will be together for ever, those that do it for money, lust and even the ones that think are in love will most likely end in divorce.

People change throughout their life time and marriage is a commitment for life, unfortunately now a days, many people go into a marriage thinking, hey if it doesn't work, I'll just divorce.

If there is no commitment, respect, trust, love, communication, care, willingness to compromise, unselfishness, support, kindness, doing what it takes to see the other person happy, etc. etc. from both spouses, eventually the marriage will fall apart.

The bottom line is that one day, the honeymoon will be over, the kids will be gone and the couple will be by themselves. Except this time they will not be young, will not be making good money, and will need to take care of each other. Do you see yourself doing this for your partner? I do. I love my husband, and I would do anything for him and he feels the same way about me. I see us at 80 years old still holding hands and taking care of each other. Neither one of us would have it any other way. We where very lucky to have found each other and we are thankful.

As far as changing the age some one should be allowed to get married, I've seen 30 year olds get married and divorce in a blink of an eye and I know people that married in their teens and have been married for more that 30 years.

Answer 2

A course would be a good idea and I could live with an age limit of 18 because that's the age of legal majority. It makes no sense to me to have 15 or 16 as an age limit, as some states do.

Would it decrease the divorce rate? I doubt it. It's not first marriages that have a 50% divorce rate, but second marriages. The divorce rate for first marriages is much lower. People tend to try harder the first time around. Maybe a course for divorcees would be a better idea.

Answer 3

I think the course would maybe help a little bit because you would go through so many different things and if you couldnt go threw the course how would you be able to go through life together??? It may downsize the divorce rate in some cases some people though just get tired of who they are with and nothing could stop that. I think the age is perfect because if someone can go fight for there country at age 17 they should be able to get married along with a list of other things....

Answer 4

Knowing what a textbook says marriage is isn't going to solve the problem of finding the right person. Neither is raising the minimum age for marriage. I've seen people who got married in their thirties and forties who still aren't mature enough to make it work, but I've also seen people who got married in their teens and twenties who have great, solid, happy marriages. It's all about finding the right person and being willing and able to work with them, because what good would passing a class do if you find out after you get married that you can't communicate with the person you married when the two of you disagree?
I think instead of making couples sit through marriage classes or raising the age minimum, I think that society as a whole needs to learn to be more supportive and accepting of newlyweds. If there were more couples who have been married a long time who were willing to lend their advice to younger couples, then newlyweds would have someone with experience to help guide them through problems as they arise, instead of trying to remember what some class taught them months (or years) ago. If we all change our expectations that such-and-such percentage of people will get divorced, maybe we'll be more supportive of the ones who don't want to and the divorce rate will begin to fall.

Answer 5

Yes, in theory it is a good idea but what a couple thinks they know at age 20 or 30 is not what is going to get them through at age 50. Trust me on that one. I was married at 18 and now I am going through some problem times and no way am I the same person I was at 18. Would a class have helped?? I don't know.

Answer 6

YES!!!!!!!!!! I'm going through a divorce after 30 years, I kept the marriage together, raised a child, worked many times two jobs, I'm older and much wiser now and back in the early 70's things were so much different than now, he came from a great home so I thought they his parents had everything in tact, so I was I thought . At the age of 20 I knew nothing, at this age, I know so much more, like I said older but wiser, thank God!!!! I can't say never again would I marry, never say never.

Answer 7

I don't think this is a good idea. Marriage is an institution, where couples have to follow some unwritten rules, which come with time, knowing eachother, adjustments etc. You can't learn the tricks of the rope by taking a 3-month training. You don't need a diploma to get married.

Answer 8

No I dont think that would work, people know what marriage is when they commit to it, it is merely the feelings of the individuals that lead to divorce, these change over time. People will not start staying together regardless of these changing feelings just because they had gone on a course in the past. Furthermore, it wouldnt stop people from getting married because many are too 'in love' to realise that with time these feelings may fade. I also think its a bit patronising to ask people to go on a course. In the end mistakes have to be made and you learn from them, or they may even be happy - shock, horror!!

Answer 9

You know a marriage counseling session is a good idea, but it isn't going to put a real dent in the divorce rate in my opinion. I know 4 couples who did a marriage counseling session for a few weeks that went over budgeting, finances, goals, dreams, and the relationship. Of those 4: 1 couple is still together, ! couple is separated, 2 are divorced.

Answer 10

Taking a course before getting married seems laughable! You get married because you love someone and you're compatible with them and want to be with each other for the rest of your lives.
You should have parents that have been married, family members who are married, and they can be your role models. What is a 3 mos course gonna tell you that you don't already know? Don't cheat or call each other disrespectful names. duh.
To Denise, I'm glad I'm not Catholic!!! They have so many rules and keep forgetting the rule that states to not **** little boys in the ***! Nasty!
How many Catholic men believe in having their wife who gives him 6 kids and then have a mistress on the side always? Isn't that common of Catholics? LOL.