2007-08-26 02:07:20 · 8 answers · asked by little bear 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's hard to get another dr in my area. Also, it took me such a long time to get use to him. He even said I was too timid that he believes me seeing another dr would be a waste of time. I can't stop thinking how much I like him.
2007-08-26 02:25:26 · update #1
You need to realize that you have placed a "love" onto your doc because he / she is "saving" you.
What you are experiencing is a transference of affection due to the "savior" complex.
Your doc listens and examines everything you say, shows emotion and concern, sympathizes, commiserates, shows compassion and is trying to you heal you of the brokenness of your life.
If you have never had a good, real relationship before, this feels like the real thing.
This is the way a real, and good relationship is, that is why it feels so real... but you are PAYING FOR IT!
What you need to remember is that you are PAYING your doc to take this interest in you! It is a true interest, but it is the interest an entomolgist shows to a bug on a pin, or a fish breeder to the mother fish in the bowl. You are this doc's JOB!
As real as this feels, your doc does NOT share your emotional attachment to him / her. This doc gets this kind of tribute from one or another patient / client EVERY SINGLE DAY. Any doctor worth their salt is not going to throw away all of the money that they have invested in having their career as a doc for a love interest.
You can:
A) Switch docs
B) Tell your doc you are having tranferrence feelings and you need help working through them.
If your doc takes you up on your feelings, then you need to contact the medical board of your state and sue your doctor. This would be a gross negligence to your well being and future happiness. This professional relationship is in place to help you to learn boundaries and these boundaries MUST NOT BE CROSSED!!!!
I do understand the way that you feel, and I do speak from experience. Option A tends to only prolong the problem whereas Option B will help you sort through it and come out on the side of being able to have a healthy, full, good relationship with a real person that you do not have to PAY to give you the attention and care that you deserve.
Best of luck to you during this difficult time.
2007-08-26 02:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your a teenager, then it's usually normal to feel attracted to adult, but what you are really attracted to is not the person, it's what he does. So, changing the doctor might help, but you might have the same problem with the new doctor.
More ever, if the doctor is really good, it's a big lost to change him.
Try having more relationships with people of your age, and the doctor will be only a good memory.
2007-08-26 02:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by tbc1230 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to make them go away. Take your thinking to a higher level, which allows you to like him but not be totally full of him. He also is trying to get by everyday just as you, so let him do his job and pay respects for a good person and the job he does. See the wide picture here, and be thankful for his and your goodness. I'm sure we all go thru these kind of things. good luck ......
2007-08-26 02:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another dr.
2007-08-26 02:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by chasrmck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MY DOCTOR HAD SOME GOOD NEWS AND SOME BAD NEWS FOR ME. THE BAD NEWS WAS THAT HE THOUGHT I WAS GAY. THE GOOD NEWS WAS THAT HE THOUGHT I WAS KIND OF CUTE.
YOU NEVER ACT OUT ON THESE FEELINGS BECAUSE IT ISN'T APPROPRIATE AND YOUR DOCTOR WILL NOT BE ABLE TO TREAT YOU EFFECTIVELY..
2007-08-31 10:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, he's right. you have to see another dr. ;-) that's the only way out.
2007-08-26 02:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Konzie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be realistic with yourself. you can have a crush on him, but you probably won't have a future with him.
2007-09-01 03:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a doctor that is the same sex as you...unless your gay
2007-08-26 02:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋