So when you need help and there's no one there, because you have always had the answers and you are the one everyone depends on. Where do you go for help? Parents are very old and actually part of the problem and religion is out.
2007-08-25 20:49:07 · 14 answers · asked by cowboy in scrubs 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I hear ya cowboy.
Sometimes I feel the same way you feel. Even when I was younger, my friends especially would come to me with all their problems. First it started out as boy problems, then as I got older, the problems became much more serious. To this day, a lot of my friends come to me with their problems. Even people I don't know very well, tend to tell me their problems. I don't know what it is.
Here's my theory. We both are people that are compassionate and caring and we are extremely good listeners. We don't judge and we're very truthful. Is that so bad? I don't think so. But I totally understand where you're coming from. Who can you turn to when you're the one everyone turns to? You're always the one taking care of everyone; when will someone take care of you right?
Do you have any close friends or maybe siblings that you could talk to? Maybe another family member like an aunt or an uncle that you could talk to? If you don't, why not try talking to a therapist or a counselor? Sometimes there are community centers where you can talk to trained counselors about whatever you need help in. Sometimes talking to a stranger is actually easier since they won't be biased or they won't really judge you since they don't know you. Perhaps you could talk to a social worker about help with your parents. I'm sure they can give you some good advice.
I hope this helps. Hang in there!
2007-08-26 19:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by hula wabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to talk to someone about their problems that is fine, but they should be there for you too. If they aren't maybe just bring up that some rough stuff is going on with you, if they don't want to listen then they seem very self-centered.
Whatever you do, just don't take on everyone else's problems as your own, it will get you down so much that you will forget about your own. It's good to listen but don't forget that people need to listen to you too. If you really can't find a good friend to listen or don't feel comfortable with them, I would try and find a counselor who will listen and help you out. Try asking some friends if you know if they go to a counselor or did if they recommend any that they liked, that's always the best way to go really.
2007-08-25 21:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're that person too. I know how you feel.
This really depends upon the problem. Sometimes you can solve it yourself. If you cannot, go to another person that everyone seems to turn to. If your Grandparents are not part of the problem, you can also go to them. It's been my experience that most Grandparents remember what it's like to be young then a lot of people. (times don't really change, your great grandfather had the same problems that you do)
2007-08-25 21:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a great book called: I don't have to make everything all better by Lundberg -- I've included an amazon link for you to check it out.
Lundberg teaches in the book that us problem solvers have too many people relying on us, and he gives excellent input on how to help others help themselves.
For help, either a great friend, or even find a great counselor
2007-08-25 21:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by hunter621 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has to visit hell for any motive. Sin is sin, whether or not or not it's lust, robbery or homicide. Jesus forgives sin. The most effective factor that sends anybody to hell, isn't accepting Jesus as your Savior. Jesus died at the move to forgive all mankind, in their sin. If you be given Jesus, you be given His forgiveness. If you deny Jesus, then you're taking your sin to the grave with you. Since God are not able to appear upon sin, you're going to be denied entry to Heaven, and there is just one situation to head from there. You do not desire to head there. The reality that you are going to have organization, might be of no alleviation at the moment.
2016-09-05 14:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
indeed a diff situ
sometimes we feel good tt pple r coming to us. after a while we feel being used. so there's no alternative but to avoid these pple. yes. put a caveat to it and say sorry openly and stare into their eyes - dont be shy abt it - tt u will help only if u hv time and means to do so. relig is definitely the biggest obstacle as they dont seem to budge from archaic beliefs and practices tt r not in line with our everyday issues. so its tough but u must persevere. try,
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2007-08-25 21:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having a good friend or friends and family(a support system) is what you need.You can,t change your parents or their needs.If you feel they aren,t able to look after things or themselves anymore it might be time to put them in a retirement home to receive 24 hour care.You shouldn,t have to go it alone.
2007-08-25 21:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start to have boundaries with people wanting you to be the one to help or give advice to them. You could see a counsellor or talk to a telephone counsellor , because you need to vent out and look after yourself and your needs first.
2007-08-25 21:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sharee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends that you give advice to. If they've listened to your good advice, they may have learned something and can give you some good advice in return. Or the shoulder to lean on...whatever the situation. Friendships are give and take.
2007-08-25 21:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by maplunkett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-25 22:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋