I have a female friend who has asked me to fulfill her sexual fantasy of being raped. We've never been intimate, nothing more than than a hug and a kiss on the cheek and I've known her for about 8 years. She's attractive and married andI've wanted to be with her for years but, I'm afraid of loosing the friendship. I'd do anything for her but, I'm afraid she hasn't thought this through. I don't really know where to begin with this. Any thoughts would be appriciated.
2007-08-25 19:13:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
thanks for the input, again, i am attracted to her, and would do " most " anything she asked, but I'm affraid of hurting her, not physicaly but mentaly. I'd never hurt her.
Thank you Lynn, but I must admit it tempting
2007-08-25 19:29:21 · update #1
The bonds of friendship and attraction and admiration as well as trust would be compromised should you act on this fantasy of hers. It's a normal fantasy for a lot of women to be made love to passionately almost to the point of sex violence or rape.
Why don't you encourage her to play this fantasy out with her own husband? As much as you are tempted to, you shouldn't accommodate her. Reassure her that you are indeed grateful that she values your confidence to trust you with her innermost thought. But this is a dangerous proposal. as she's married.and bound by marital vows. Further, you do value your integrity and personal safety
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Remember, that nobody is worth sacrificing for your own sense of morals -"I'd do anything for her." Do you love her enough to die for her? Is she worth it? Would she do the same for you? If she respects and values your friendship, she wouldn't make these demands of you. She's being selfish. Try doing a reality check on her.
You said, youdon not lose this friendship. Well you're headed that direction should you contemplate on acting out her fantasy. She indeed has some emotional issues. Maybe, she's unhappy in her marriage. Maybe, she's trying to use you as a bait to make her husband jealous and pay attention to her. Have you taken all of these possibilities into consideration?
Good Luck! Try not to be foolhardy! Remember Eve tempting Adam?
2007-08-25 19:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by rosieC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rape fantasies are not uncommon but I don't think it is the best way to become intimate with someone for the first time.
If you value your friendship with this woman then don't do it. She is not only your friend, she is your MARRIED friend. Take the high road, and tell her that while you appreciate the offer, you wouldn't feel comfortable in that situation and leave it there.
2007-08-26 00:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Julie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it might seem like you're helping her or doing her a favor by fulfilling this fantasy (or maybe you're hoping that it will open the door for a future relationship), but it's ultimately just going to create problems since she is married.
If you really care about her, wait. The opportunity to be intimate with her could re-present itself later, when she ISN'T attached. Then you'll get stud points for being so noble in the past.
2007-08-25 19:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by phreeksgurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. She may be friend for the past 8 yrs. but something isn't right. You might be in the closet as to what is really happening with her marriage. Best thing keep a distance. You don't want to find yourself in jail if she's having a wild moment and then decides she has a guilty conscious and then decides to confesses to her hubby. Yeah, just a stay away, for your own safety.
2007-08-25 19:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by pearl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't rape her. that is sick, and she is married. if she is into that kind of thing, she can role play with her husband. this will keep problems from forming between the two of you.
it really does not sound like she is thinking straight, and you are a good friend not to just go and do it.
2007-08-25 19:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by kjhbh, 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
what she really needs is help. she needs a therapist, at least. she's married, for one--and asking you to rape her? she's got issues. and as good of a friend as you are to her--or as attracted as you are to her, you're not the one to help her. she's not happy in her marriage--that's evident. but the rape thing might be more than just a weird fantasy.
2007-08-25 20:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by AdoringK 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should do it. Both are morally wrong (rape & having sexual relations with someone who's married)!! Your friendship is definitely going to chang afterwards, either for the best or for the worse!
2007-08-25 19:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am gonna be honest with you, that's sick I mean really sick. She obviously has some serious issues going on upstairs, and you might want to sit her down and talk to her about it. As a friend thats the least you could do.
2007-08-25 19:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by MOMMY1980 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is married and her fantasy is sick...she really wouldn't want to be raped trust me...i was raped a long time ago...it was the worst day of my life and i put the asshole in jail
2007-08-25 19:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by angelstarszzzz 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
well if ur goin to fulfill her fantasy of rape, i recommend to get a tape recorder or something, and when u see her the next time ask her (while the tape recorder is on) what she wants u to do to her again.
if u get her to say it, and u somehow get her to say her name and if u get it on tape u can go ahead and do it.
i recommend u do this so if she takes u to court or something u got evidence, that will make her s*** her pants.
its always safe to have evidence when messing with sort of illegal stuff like this
o and if u do this tape recorder thing make sure its hidden, so she doesn't think something is up
2007-08-25 19:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by kleino383 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋