"Between the ages of 13 and 15 I dated a boy with whom my dad fell in love with (only really for his work ethic). Within these two years he beat my self esteem down to nearly nothing and I questioned why my friends would even bother talking to me. Finally, after a heated argument about a gay friend and mine's relationship, I broke it off, but he remained friends with my brother of two years younger.
My parents feel that it would be unfair for them to disallow my ex access to the house because of his friendship with my brother. I feel that they can remain friends, but do not want my ex at the house. Now 18, I've completely changed my mind about wanting to stay at the house through college to moving out as soon as I can, only to separate myself from my ex. I want to know what others experiences and opinions of this situation are. "
I posted this in a previous question, and now I feel like I want to reword the question. See details...
2007-08-25 19:11:36 · 7 answers · asked by Janelle W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My dad feels like I have this "deep hatred" (true, yes) of my ex, and that I should get over it. ..I feel like I HAVE gotten over it, but it's hard to forget about such a terrible person when they show up at your house to remind you. I seriously want to move to Virginia.
..He brings underage girls, his girlfriends, to my house. I think it's disgusting, and I hate being reminded of his ... habits.
2007-08-25 19:13:04 · update #1
Your parents chooses your ex over you, their own daughter? Well, that's nice. Explain to your parents why you hate him so much and keep him away from your little brother because who knows what he might do to him or in what ways he'll change him. If your parents still allow him to visit, you could always report him for dating all those underage girls.
2007-08-25 19:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that your parents would choose someone else over you. It's completely insensitive of them, not to mention a little weird. Sorry about that one. If he is bringing underage girls to your parents house, is he doing anything with them there? Why would your parents allow such behavior? Man, something's really not right here. But you, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. And ya know, living away from home during your college years is a great idea. I went to college in the town where I live, but I lived in the dorms. It was a great experience to meet people my own age and to learn to care for myself and my own needs, a great growing up experience that I am so glad I was able to have. By living on campus, you are also able to live the college life and attend the events on the campus,I hope you are able to do the same. You will actually come to love it! Good Luck with everything you do!
2007-08-26 02:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by bpsgirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old he is but since you bring up underage girls being with him in your parents house..it might be time for you to go ahead and move on in your life. You can't tell your parents how to run their house..and now you are 18 it is legal for you to move on down the road and take over your own life. It's either that or continue to live there and keep very very busy with your studies and simply pretend he does not exist.
I'm sorry since it seems as though your parents have chosen him over you..but perhaps later they wil see it was a mistake and will ask you to forgive them..which you of course will do with love.
2007-08-26 02:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by jokerthefreak1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the problem here is that he's your brothers friend and they don't feel it fair to tell your brother that he can't have his friend over. They may feel that you were young enough you should have moved on and what he does shouldn't bother your. While I may have handled it differently they are basically right, don't let his presence upset you. If you truly no longer have any feelings about him (the true opposite of love is complete apathy) then his presence shouldn't cause you any irritation.
2007-08-26 02:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to the circumstances of him being your ex - I think your parents should stand behind you and give you their support on this issue. I am almost 60.
2007-08-26 02:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Wrong number 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your in the right if your parent are alouing him in your house then mayb its time 4 you to leave, if they were goin 2 make him stay away the would of by now
2007-08-26 05:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems that family would want what you want and that is sad. they are trying to pick a bf for youlooks like. anyhow you do it move and be happy and iwould say i would have thought they would have all stood behind youbut nope its sad but you have the right attitude.
2007-08-29 23:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋