I have an ego problem?

Question

Its not really something out there, you can never tell I have it if you meet me. Its just that, I think highly of myself. Whenever I can't complete a task and my father reminds me to finish it and I don't come through in the end, I tend to blame the people that are the closest to me, and care about me(my dad, or my sister, my uncle etc). I am a extremely nice person and I always apologize to my family if I ever hurt their feelings. Whats weird is that I don't do this to my freinds or people that I meet in my daily life. Its just that I turn I against the only people who have a stake in my well being, happiness, and success. What can I do to make this never happen again?

Answer 1

It isn't an ego problem. You simply don't take responsibility for your failures. You blame it on people who love you unconditionally, because it will make it easier for you to get away with it. You are very clever. But if I was your family member, I would not play your games. Grow up and be a man. It isn't easy, but you do have to learn eventually.
You also depend on public opinion too much. Self assured people do not feel the need to do that.

Answer 2

Rifling logic helps appropriate the blame accordingly. As things occur, think about them and reason the cause of everything and the truth will eventually shine through, especially after emotionally settling down (anger or whatever)

I think the reason you don't do this with your friends is because of the social image you try to exert in their presence, the circumstances of which tend to differ greatly from the back region persona you adopt at home. In public you more attentively seek out social cues and aim to please more in order to uphold your ideal view of yourself whereas at home, you already expect a certain amount of commanding respect as if simply being a family member grants you that. Even if this is completely false, finding some reason, this or on your own, lets you "reason," so to speak, the cause of action and often lets you avoid it.

Answer 3

Well, it's not something you can just get rid of, trust me, it takes time.. I have the same problem, although I am much better, i still tend to blame and take it out on those who do nothing but try and help. What works best is to take it slow and MOST IMPORTANTLY, if you didn't complete it, blame yourself and only yourself... but don't be to harsh. It's you, not them.