Abortions, please read everything before answering?

Question

Let me ask you so called pro-lifers, what do you think is worse.
A girl finds out shes pregnant and decides to abort.
Somebody has a child for money and abuses said child in more than one way.
Somebody has a baby and some time after birth kills it, purposely drowning, leaving in garbage can, or something worse.

I had an abortion, how quick are you to judge me without even knowing anything about me or why I did what I did. Who are you to pass such judgement on a girl? For all you know I did it for medical reasons, or mabye I was forced to, maybe I was abused and felt it was the only to protect this unborn child. Are you gonna judge me now? I want you people to think about a persons situation before you jump to conclusions and judge them unfairly.

FYI, I'm not supporting abortions, not trying to make it right. I'm not only speaking for myself but others who get judged just like me. I don't support abortions but I do support a woman right to choose.

Answer 1

Amen sister. It's not their issue at all, it's not their baby and they aren't doing ANYTHING to help you take care of it, they aren't living your life or dealing with your mistakes. It's YOUR choice. they have no idea who you are and they don't care... they just want to sit there and do absolutely nothing but run their mouth. All the pro-lifers need to go adopt babies and kids that are given up, instead of just running their mouths and judging... do something more productive and do something that actually makes society a better place.

Answer 2

I think that "Somebody has a baby and some time after birth kills it, purposely drowning, leaving in garbage can, or something worse." is the worst, however it is tied to "A girl finds out shes pregnant and decides to abort." because they are both killing a child, killing when more mature would bring the baby more suffering though as their brains are more mature and can understand pain more, and those are cruel murder choices.

Having a child yet abusing it still gives the baby hope, it is terrible but the baby is still alive and can have a good life.

I think abortion is wrong, it is murder and I don't approve.
This is yahoo answers, if you ask a question I will answer it and judge accordingly.
Medically the baby still has a chance to live and have a normal life, or you can give it a life for as long as it lives.
What do you mean "or maybe I was forced to" You're never forced to do anything, if it was a threat it should be reported to the police.
If you were abused and wanted to proect a child, adoption is a better option than murder/abortion.

I am not judging you, more of your action to abortion.

Answer 3

Women have abortions for many different reasons. Bottom line is, that it is THEIR choice. Whether the reason is deemed "justifiable" or not, it is up to the woman to decide. I think that people who judge have never been in a situation like yours, or like the ones that so many women go through. Unless someone has been what you've been through, they will NEVER EVER understand why you did it and how you felt about it. How easy is it for people to sit back and say "taking a life is wrong." Well are those people going to buy you diapers and pay your bills? Watch your kids when you can't? Are those people going to be in your life when you have that child?
I guess it's up to every individual to make that choice. And that choice, whatever it may be will be something that you have to live with for the rest of your life. Ask for forgiveness, and learn from this situation, Keep your head up and know that there are people out there who understand you and who will not judge you. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

I believe that personal choices like this are nobody's business but the woman involved. Other people have no right or reason to judge you for the decisions you make regarding your life.

Honestly, I'll never understand why people want to make things like this their business when there are so many other issues in the world that you can take a stance on, which shouldn't involve you forcing your opinions down another person's throat. I don't judge people for what they choose to do with their body, as it's none of my business. I think the world would be a better place if other people did the same, but I know it'll never happen.

As for your question, the latter two choices are far worse than the first.

Answer 5

I agree, 100% with ya.

No one should judge another person. If you're religious in any way, you'd realize that it's only for your god to do that.

I believe that: if the woman's/child's health is at severe risk, the woman was raped, the child would be a product of incest, or there is some sort of other medical problem with the woman (psychological problems, for example), then an abortion may be the only way to deal with things.

Should a woman who will die if she continues to carry her baby do so, rather than save her own life? If she dies, the baby will to, so think logically.

Have you ever been raped or abused? Do you realize what that can do to a woman? I feel that if I were raped, I would be able to carry the child: but many woman cannot. It's a psychological and physical stress. Every woman is different, and if she simply cannot have a child, it's her own choice in such a case.

I don't think it's right for any woman to simply get pregnant by accident (say by having sex with a random man or boyfriend), and having an abortion. It's careless, and isn't fair to the child. In such a case of normal sex, one should carry the baby and give it up for adoption. Though, like I said before, every woman and case is different. Just my opinions.

Again, I totally agree with you. No one should judge you, and I certainly don't. :)

Oh, to answer the question. I think that the last two are both pretty awful; both are taking away a child's life, in one way or another. :(

Answer 6

Well let me start off by saying I am AGAINST abortions but....there are a few exceptions to where I would think it to be OK. Such as....getting raped, or for medical reasons. And even then there's still adoption. People who kill their child after birth or abuse them are the ones who are mentally unstable and they need help.

Now when it comes to the ones who get pregnant all because they cant be responsible enough to use protection... that's where the line gets drawn for me. What gives you the right to take away the life of something so innocent? There are always other ways of handling it. You can go to any church and give your child away legally or you can adopt them out. There are millions of people who would love to adopt because they can't have children of their own. I have friends who have had abortions and I don't judge them by any means because for me I know it's something they have to live with forever but If they ask me what I think about it I will tell them. And whether you believe it or not most girls who have abortions at a young age grow up to have alot of mental health issues such as deep depression.

It's just not something I would ever do. But do you really think it's fair to punish something that grows and becomes apart of you all because a person can't use protection? I'm not judging you because I don't know what your situation was but you asked so I'm answering. What I want to know is what gives anyone the right to choose to kill and what about the unborn babies choice to live? If you create life, then that life should get the choice and the chance to survive. What if your mom came to you one day and told you that she almost aborted you? Then you wouldn't be here. What would you think then? Would you not be glad to be here alive? If you don't want to get pregant and you don't want to be responsible enough to use protection, then don't have sex. It's as simple as that.

Answer 7

I am a pro-lifer. However, just because of that, please do not think that I am going to judge you.
Abortions are not the only option; you can also give the baby up for adoption to a loving home (where the adoptive parents go through a screening process to make sure that they aren't abusive.)
I am sorry that some pro-lifers have hurt you. I really am. They have no right to put you down. I hear what you're saying, and who am I to judge you when I don't even know you? What you did is between you and God.
So in answer to your question, I think that those three options are not the only options for a child's life when it is conceived.

Answer 8

Not what i expected to read. No abortion a child isnt right no abusing a child isnt right and no killing a child isnt right. But I do have a question for you why would you care what anybody thought about you. anyone who judges you or your situation before they get to know you are not worth your time. I'm not set in my religion yet but I do remember Jesus saying let those without sin cast the first stone. The only person who has the right to judge is God. Last time i checked i do believe judging was a sin. Ive read articles stating judging was a false commandment . i think its a bunch of bull so people can put others down to make themselves feel better. That's just my opinion. Ive gotten all off the topic but anyway. what's done is done.

Answer 9

I believe women should have the right to chose abortion. But I always judge people who get abortions. I was raised with strong views against it and I still have them in the back of my mind. Also, I could never see myself doing it so it is hard for me to understand or accept how someone else could do it. It's a matter of putting myself in your shoes and I am not able to. After having two kids I can't imagine doing it, but I know this is my choice and others should be able to make their own.

Answer 10

I'm of the opinion that if you weren't prepared for the consequences of pregnancy, then you shouldn't have had sex to begin with. An outdated opinion, to be sure, but there it is.

You know that pregnancy can result from sex.
You know that contraceptives (if you even used them) are not always effective.
Therefore, whether you used protection or not, you know that a pregnancy can result from sex.

You seem to give a lot of thought to the welfare of the child, and use that as the justification for killing it. Would you use that justification if the child was already born? "Well, judge, I saw the baby was being beaten, so I killed the kid to stop the beating." That argument doesn't make any sense at all.

You seem to be pro-choice. Perhaps it would do you well to consider the choice of the child. Does the child deserve to be killed? If so, next time I hope you'll either abstain from having sex, knowing you might get pregnant or use protection. Either way, at least have the grace to accept the consequences of your actions.