i want to meet gay people, but i havn't come out of the closet. i dont plan to... actually, im bi. but what do i do?
2007-08-25 17:39:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im 16 years old... junior year.
2007-08-25 17:44:23 · update #1
im new at the school though.
2007-08-25 17:45:07 · update #2
but i do want same sex, and ive been pretty sure for the past four years.
2007-08-25 17:47:06 · update #3
and im not girly, im just wear preppy clothes, i have a demented sexual imagination, too.
2007-08-25 17:48:08 · update #4
thanks for the laugh, sammi
2007-08-25 17:52:45 · update #5
thank you amandica
2007-08-25 17:58:45 · update #6
demented sexual desires is normal for a 16 yuear old boy... at least it was when i was that age... hahah
go into chat rooms.. find some other gay or bi guys and befreind them and just see how things happen and what you learn or whatnot and go from there
2007-08-25 17:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by amandica82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the school has something like GSA or Spectrum, join that (you can pass as an ally) and you'll meet people who are either gay-friendly or actually gay. You'll have a lot more luck meeting people if you're out, but college is a much better time to do that--I hadn't planned to come out either, but I did once I got to college because my school at least is a very accepting environment.
2007-08-26 00:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Aura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and your living situation.
Okay, at 16 and new at school you need to take your time. I think you should concentrate on just getting into the new groove of the school year, get to know a few people, and focus on getting grades. The rest will happen, but it may not happen until you're done with high school and you need to prepare yourself for that. Especially since you're not will to come out of the closet. Don't worry about that though. You are in what's called a conundrum but it will pass.It's teenaged yangst that you are experiencing. You just hang in there, go out and meet people, don't be afraid of life, and don't slouch.
2007-08-26 00:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of gay clubs/bars do not ID on weekdays. Find a local bar and ask if they will be IDing. I understand that with school you will have a hard time going. Just go on one of your days off. :-D
I went to a gay club the first time when I was 18. I was IDed and it was a thursday. I went to three other clubs and they didn't ID me. Just tell your parents you are going to a friend's house. That's what I do.
2007-08-26 01:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by N♂t - ♂ut - Yet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some inner soul searching. You should know if you're gay or bi, before you come out. Most people don't believe that sexuality can change, so if you do come out, you might as well make it the sexuality you really think you are. A lot of guys come out bi but later go by gay. That really doesn't shock people. But a gay guy going later as a bisexual confuses people... and they still assume he is gay. It's a sad world, but I suggest you are sure before you come out.
2007-08-26 00:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
if you can be honest with yourself, why can't you be honest with others? i'm bi too. coming out doesn't have to be poetic like they portray on shows where people come out of the closet. ei: the golden girls (blanches brother) etcetera...
when i came out i just said "i've realized i'm bi." it can be poetic or it can be like what i said. if you do want it to be poetic you could say something like:
i've been thinking and searching for answer alot lately and i've realized that i'm bi. i hope you can still love me for me and be behind me as much as you can.
i've told countless people that coming out of tha closet isn't easy. heck one time i thought up an idea so i wouldn't even have to say it. i'd litterally come out of my closet and say "well you know what i'm sayin lol." but either way if you litterally come out of tha closet or you come out, you still have to explain, expecially if you're bi like we are. so many people say that bi means gay. so it needs to be explained to them tha diff between bi and gay.
you don't have to come out tho, it is your choice. i just wouldn't recommend it. why live your life like brokeback mountain, when happiness is just a truth away?
2007-08-26 01:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to come out of the closet, just be accepting of yourself and enjoy life and make it the best it can be. You deserve to be happy most of all.
2007-08-26 00:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Roger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your bi I really don't see any reason too unless you have a craving for someone of the same sex that much.
If you want sex then just get to know someone who's openingly gay.
2007-08-26 00:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
At your age, if there are no gay youth groups, you can always try on-line personals
2007-08-26 02:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not rush,have the time to discover your inner feeling
2007-08-26 00:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by jammal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋