Last night I was in the shower with a friend of mine and he tried to finger me but it really hurt so I made him stop. The last time (also my first time) it happened was with a different guy and it hurt but i figured it just must've been the way he did it and I made him stop too. Anyway, last night my friend said that I won't be able to have sex (I'm still a virgin) and this really worries me. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mum about it as she is really funny about these things. What can I do so that I will be able to have sex when I'm ready?
2007-08-25 16:51:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I can't work out how to reply to people's comments but in reply to what New Shews said I did want to be in the shower with him and I knew stuff was gonna happen. I just didn't think it would hurt that bad but yeah what he said made me feel so uncomfortable that I stopped doing everything and we were out of the shower a few minutes later.. Thanks to everyone for your help.
2007-08-25 17:14:57 · update #1
fingering should be something that's pleasurable, not painful. some reasons it may have been painful for you could be you weren't wet enough. Also, you said it was your first time..if u meant the first time being fingered, that could be why- you're not used to it. If you are with a guy to the point of being intimate, you should be able to talk to him about it and if it's hurting you, then he could possibly do it gentler or rub your clitoris a little to get you a little wetter, which will make it less painful as well.
Good luck!
2007-08-25 17:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by hockeykns89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when your a virgin your vagina is tighter than it will ever be in your whole life,when you get ready to have sex make sure it is with someone who really cares for you and is mature enough to have patience,sex is something that you will take a few times to get used to and yes it is very painful but if the guy loves you he will understand and not force you,and let you go at your own pace when your ready is the big concern,when it is time remember to always always no matter what the gut says wear a condom,there are soooo many STD's out there and most of the time you can never tell a guy has one even if he is a virgin you still should,it pays to be safe,also try some kind of sexual lubricant it will also make things easier on you especially,hope this helped:)
2007-08-25 17:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you in a relationship with the friend? Have you and he spent time together before? Have you spent time just kissing, no fondling? If a boy just immediately goes for the "gold", your body will not be ready and it will hurt. Women need a lot of "loving" and tender foreplay before their gentials are ready.
When you are ready to have sex for the first time, make sure it is with someone you really care about and who cares about you. You should have spent time together dating and developing a relationship. Spent time just kissing and hugging. Spent time stroking upper body, not lower.
When you are ready, and if your lover is kind and considerate and spends time with gentle, lovng caresses, your body will respond and it will not hurt
2007-08-25 17:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Judy B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A. don't shower with boys if you don't want them to pull stuff. B. I am glad you had enough sense to make someone stop when they hurt you. C. There is no relationship between a horney guy's finger hurting you and you being able to successfully have sex. D. next time some guy gives you a line about you and your ability to have sex, tell him his penis will shrivel up and rot if he doesn't quit lying to get girls to do what he wants.
Oh, did I mention not to get naked with boys so freely!!! Gees, girl!
2007-08-25 17:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by New Shews 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋