i have been involved w/ a married chick for a few months now. we just found out she is pregnant. plz read on?

Question

we find out today that shes pregnant and more than likely its mine due to inactitvity b/w her and her husband. i had planned on moving out of country but now that this has happened i dont wanna just leave her, even if she is willing to take the responsibility by herself. i am not looking for a shame on u speech, i am asking WHAT U WOULD DO IF U WERE ME. i know in situations like this we all tend to tackle the circumstance. i need more like a solution or a suggestion.

Answer 1

Mate,

It's tough - you don't tell us if there are already other children of the marriage -whether hubby is having an affair himself - what you feel about her - there are just too many variables to give a clear answer.

One thing you should not do is walk away from your responsibility to her and the child and let some other poor sucker raise it for you. So I think at this stage the trip is off.

Also I feel that the truth while it hurts is better in the long run in these matters. Whether you discuss with him now or later when you are definite depends on how sure she is it's yours.

Good Luck
Joe

Answer 2

Yes, if he is drawn to pregnant (or pregnant-watching) females. And there are a few men in the market like that (primarily way to all of the famous person mothers who do not brain flaunting their "little one bumps"). Actually, it is not so unappealing on a girl, however it is lovely freaky while you see a man who appears preggo's (that circular, beer-stomach factor is bizarre). So, if you do not desire to lose it, then be taught to find it irresistible. And uncover a man who will.

Answer 3

this is such a heavy thing. i don't have a good answer, but felt compelled to say something!
you can't abandon your child. that must be utmost in your decision.
much of the decision depends on what your "lover" decides to do. her finding out who's child it is first of all. or her telling her husband..and his reaction.
is that tackling the circumstance?
it is the child i'm concerned about. he/she is the innocent victim in all this and deserves a father, mother and to be welcomed with joy into this world. don't you agree?

Answer 4

You need to discuss with her what's in the best interest of the CHILD. I think you should stay and be a father.

Answer 5

Wow that would be a hard one to answer.
I would say follow your heart with what you feel is right.
Best of Luck to you and the woman!

Answer 6

Tell her husband how you feel. He's probably understanding and all. Maybe you could even move in?

Answer 7

if this is first baby and stuff and she no longer loves the hubby then she should move on and divorce him and this is now. let the baby be born with your last name pronto