Im a 14, male obviously and currently in a close relationship with a 14 year old girl . we've been together for about 2 months now. Lately, she's been acting weirdly, not that i dont like it, but im not mature enough to understand what it means {if anyone understands that}. Ill provide an example. Last week i was over her house chilling while doing some home-work. since the start of the relationship we've been restrained to kissing, touching and no further. That afternoon though, she left to get changed and came into the room i was in in no clothes. needless to say i was pretty shocked.when i asked why, she laughed and explained that she was more comfortable around me now, etc...
My questions now are....what does she expect? what should i do at age 14??? where?. how? Im just really confused. and im too embarrased to bring this up with my parents. i asked my friends, but most just said to talk to her, and although i have the confidence too, is it "right". Need to IM someone iff poss.
2007-08-25 16:37:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
First off, I commend you for wanting to say something about this. The two of you are still kids, it's too early for either of you to be thinking about having sex. It sounds like she either wants to have sex because she's trying to be older, or she thinks that is what you want to do. She could also be feeling pressure from her friends to have sex. Whatever the reason, you need to talk to her. Tell her you aren't ready. If you aren't ready to take on the responsibity of raising a child, then you definately aren't ready for sex. If she still pushes the issue, break up with her. It's girls like this that can get a guy in trouble.
2007-08-25 17:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by DH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your girlfriend wants to do the grown up! there is nothing wrong with sex, but 14 is quite young. If you 2 do decide that you are both ready (it sounds like you arent) then just protect yourselves! this day and age with all the different forms of birthcontrol available there is no reason to not protect yourselves in some way! Good luck. think long and hard about your decision because once you go there you can never go back.
2007-08-25 16:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, it sounds like you a very mature since you asked for advice. It also sounds like you really respect and care about your girlfriend. It might not sound easy, but the best thing I can can suggest is to talk to your girlfriend. Ask her how far she is comfortable going. And tell her to let you know if you are doing anything that crosses the line or makes her uncomfortable. In my personal experience it is better to wait to have sex until you are older. It will be worth the wait and whenever you do have sex, make sure to have safe sex, use a condom. Good luck!
2007-08-25 16:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by MTWater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, im 25 and I wouldn't do that. So at 14, why is she thinking that it is okay to do this? Well whatever her reason is, i would just explain to her that you respect her much and really don't see why she has to go about doing things like that. Just be honest with her and tell her that it doesnt make you comfortable seeing her that way.. Besides, remind her that she is 14 YEARS OLD..
2007-08-25 16:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by tropics 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ask her out next friday reason she in all probability be busy all week so try the weekend. do no longer ask her out the 1st probability you get reason that should make you look as in the experience that your obsessed. additionally locate out while she has no longer something to do on the weekends so which you adult adult males could have a date. If she keeps on turning down on your proposals for a date then she's way too busy for a dating. in line with probability she only desires to be pals reason she has no time for having a bf?
2016-10-17 00:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by mohr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not right. Think about it. You're 14. You need to save that until you're married. That can be as much as 20 years from now.
By the way if you wanna im me it's mookieispawsome@yahoo.com
2007-08-25 16:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
14 is young to be doing that kind of thing, it kind of seems like she expects to go all the way or something along those lines. i would talk to her, you are young and 2 months is not a long time to jump to that level
2007-08-25 16:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14.... wait!!! She is too young too!! Are you ready to take on the responsibility of a kid if she got pregnant? If you guys aren't sure what's going on, don't do it. I think you need to distance yourself from this girl.
2007-08-25 16:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are 14, I won't fool with them. It is too young. You are not mature those time.
2007-08-25 16:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by sabrinaelder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are much too young for anything else. explain to her that your not ready for anything that shes willing to give, and you 2 need to take it slower.
2007-08-25 16:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrina Devareoux 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋