How do i tell what my sexual orientaion is, and when i figure it out how do i tell pple?

Question

im a 12 yr old girl, i know it seems kinda early to be confused about whether im SLBGT but i am. i mean i pretty dam sure im not straight but im confused about the lez and bi part. i mean i like grls but guys can be so dam cute. but im more comfortable around grls. and the male body grosses me out and i find the female body beautiful and mysterious. but being on romantic date sounds better with a guy?

sometmes i feel bad and i h8 myself for this. i mean why cant i be straight!? i just wanna kill myself!?

could it be that i dont realy lik guys those only feeling i have for them r just because i was brought up in a society where alot of pple r straight and i feel a need to be "normal".

or am i bi?

im confused! help

so when i do figure this out how do i tell pple. i mean i think my mom will tak it ok but im not so sure about the rest of my family exspecially my dad. and my friends they will prob think just caus i lik grls i lik them (which i dont!).

i wish i was normal, ugh i h8 this. but its me so i should love and except it rite!?

Answer 1

You know what? In a short 24 - 36 months, you'll have a solid grip on your orientation and you can breathe a sigh of relief.

For now, be a kid. Don't let the adult stuff stress you out.

Answer 2

Check out the site below. It will give you a starting point.
http://www.youthnetsouthampton.org.uk/breakout/kleingrid.php

As for telling people, there is a book called "Outing Yourself" that I used myself when i was starting to come out.

I *am* a bit concerned though. At 12 years old I'm wondering if you're not rushing to label yourself before you've even gotten into your teen years. Don't be in such a rush to get there. Your journey has just started.

Sure, go ahead and take the quiz, but slow down. Take your time figuring things out. You have all the time in the world either way.

Answer 3

You may be bisexual, or you may be lesbian. Human sexuality is fluid, so that your tastes can vary. For example, I am bisexual, and I mostly like men, but sometimes I just really desire women. If you are bisexual, you don't have to like men and women equally; you might prefer women, and that's fine. You might be emotionally attracted to men and physically attracted to women, etc. There aren't really any rules to sexual attraction.

I think it may be a little too early for you to figure out what sexuality you are. I definitely think it's too early for you to come out. Date around; date girls and guys. Explore your crushes and figure out what you find attractive. Don't worry about what you are; worry about what makes you happy.

"sometmes i feel bad and i h8 myself for this. i mean why cant i be straight!? i just wanna kill myself!? "

Please don't! Being straight isn't all it's cracked up to be. I actually think I'm lucky to be bi, because I can appreciate *all* of the beauty I encounter.

"could it be that i dont realy lik guys those only feeling i have for them r just because i was brought up in a society where alot of pple r straight and i feel a need to be "normal"."

The only way to figure that out is to date guys you're attracted to and figure out whether your feelings for them are romantic/sexual or emotional.

There is more than just homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality. There is homosensuality, heterosensuality, and bisensuality. A heterosexual male who likes to cuddle with other men is homosensual. You may be a lesbian who is bisensual.

But I think that it's still too early to decide on that for sure. If you give yourself a label this early in your life, you may feel confined and constricted by it later. Just explore your feelings and date around. Don't worry about what category you fit into right now (I know I gave you a lot of categories, but I love categories; I'm going to be a librarian). Just enjoy your life and worry about your definitions when you hit high school. ;)

In the meantime, you should check out PFLAG: Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. They give support for young glbt people and their families. You don't have to come out so soon, but if you do, this is a good place to steer your family.

Answer 4

Neither. it is an instinct that determines a sexual decision. Gender orientation is an instinct besides. i became raised in a position the place boys and females are equivalent, and that i had never heard or examine something approximately what the 'T' in 'LGBT' stood for. however, I knew that I ought to have been male.

Answer 5

K! When I was your age I was attracted other girls too and still am to this day but I'm straight. I've never even kissed a woman. And at your age, I thought boys we're gross too cuz that's what you're suppose to think at that age. You're confusing yourself by over thinking it. You don't have to be anything just yet, you're 12.

Answer 6

Yes, you should love and accept yourself and definitely before even thinking about coming out. It can be a hard enough process without being uncertain. As for figuring out your sexuality, who do you really want to be with sexually? Could you see yourself in a sexual relationship with a man? Or does the thought of that gross you out too? Oh, and there's a difference between thinking a guy is cute and actually want to sleep with him. It took me years to realize that one myself...

Brightest blessings,
Sarah

Answer 7

Ok. listen up your straight. lol At 12 of course you gonna think the male body is kinda gross. Hun but its not..lol. And everyone thinks girls have pretty bodies..dude I am straight and I do..lol Its just your age. And killing yourself wont solve anything at all. Just ruin alot of ppl's lives. Don't go about it that way. Need any other help just email me. =]

Answer 8

i think you will find the answer to be "straight", but read this

http://www.brainphysics.com/yourenotgay.php