what to do if family and friends dont like a name you chose?

Question

My mother doesnt like the name i have chosen for my next child. And i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how i can get people to accept the name i picked. I picked Olive and Sylus which are more unusual names then jennifer or brittney and it seems because of this everyone looks at me like im naming a space creature and not a baby. Any words of wisdom or encouragment would be appriciated . Pleae no rude comments. Thank U !

thanks everyone for ur suggestions i appriciate them. I like sylus spelled that way mainly cause i think silas looks a little bit softer i think the spelling sylus looks more like a bad *** way of spelling it lol jmo though. but thanks everyone Sylus Killian Brody Or Olive Aralia Cheyene thanks u also lol

Also I reallly love weird names if anyone has one they know of u can also suggest it im planning on having four more children so i may get to use them soon! thanks

Answer 1

I love both names! Especially Sylus (great badass spelling). My friend just had a baby boy and picked a name no one liked, but she stuck with it and is happy she did. She named him Ariel Roman, so that if he doesn't like the "feminine" quality about his first name, he can go by the more masculine Roman. I say stick with what you like and you'll be happier!

Answer 2

When I named my first child Eliza people (even in my family) looked at me like I was nuts. I loved it and it suits her so well. Now they just accept it and I don't give a s*** what others think! My baby, my name. Period!
Also my sister wanted to name her first Skye which our mum hated(she actually said, 'well you may as well call her fencepost!) so she didn't call her that and regretted it. 2nd time she called the baby what she wanted and our mum still doesn't like it but its not her child!

I say call your baby Olive or Sylus if you want. They aren't the worst names in the world and are heaps better than others I have heard on here. Olivia is a nice alternative to olive and I really like Sylus (but spelt Silas as it gets confusing when you change spellings.)

Go for it and good luck!!

Answer 3

This is the reason that when I have a child, I'm not telling anyone the names I have on my list. I'm not really a fan of choosing a name before the kid's even born, anyway.... Besides that, I don't feel the need for outside input. I've been making decisions for myself for a long time now...

Also - someone put this in an answer on another question.... give your kid a "normal" name so they'll be able to find it on a rack of "trinkets" i.e. stickers, pencils). I could never find my name on anything as a child, and it did irk me, but as I got older, I was sooooo thankful my mother didn't name the names that were popular - Jennifer, Danielle, Stephany....(gag) I'd hate to see my name on anything now!

Answer 4

Well, remember it's your child.
You're the one who will be carrying the child for nine months, going through labor and delivery, and then raising the child.
I say that their opinion shouldn't have an impact.
In fact, I really love the name Sylus.
Both Silas and Olive are old fashioned names!
I say if it makes you happy, then they should be understanding.
After all, you didn't get a choice in what their names are, or what your name is....

Answer 5

First, don't tell anyone that you have chosen a name yet. Tell them you're still thinking about it and will take any suggestions under consideration, but you will not be making your final decision until the baby is born.

Then, once baby is born and you have named him or her, the family will be so excited over the new arrival that they will hardly give it a second thought. And even if they do, too bad, it's too late. Stand firm by your decision and do not entertain any discussion about it. It's your baby, not theirs and that's that. Don't leave any room for debate or discussion. Tell them the name after it's born and the paperwork signed, sealed and delivered and that it's a done deal.

Answer 6

your mother already had a chance to pick baby names that she liked. this is your turn. besides, people won't have any choice but to accept whatever you pick because that will be the baby's name. it's like asking how to get someone to accept that a tree is called a tree. you don't have to get them to accept it, because that is reality, so there is no room for debate.

oh, and the spelling you have for sylus looks a little too close to syphilis to me. you might want to stick with the traditional silas. it will cut down on confusion when people try to spell it or pronounce it.

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Answer 7

It really isn't anyone else's concern. Since you asked, though, I think that the names you've chosen are different enough to be interesting, but not weird. Remember, a child has to "wear" their name constantly. That means at school with other kids, who might not think it's cute, fuzzy or amusing. Just weird. You don't want to set your child up by giving him/her a strange name. Later in life, having an odd name could be detrimental as well. (For example, have you ever heard of a CEO named "Bitsy")?

There are plenty of names (check the baby names books) that are less well known, but have wonderful meanings. Then if there are questions, you can say "..but it means...wonderful person" or whatever. Food for thought. Good luck with your pregnancy!

Answer 8

I don't think they are that weird- they are names that exist already. Olive is ok but it makes me think of the color or the food (that I don't like). The family will get used to the names. The kids might have trouble if made fun of (especially boys). I don't think Sylus would warrant much teasing though.

I love killian but hesitate to use it for my son to be.

Answer 9

I see nothing wrong with either name, but think ahead -- think about when this child starts school. Olive may not be picked on for her name, but Sylus will. No one will know how to spell it. Other kids will say "what kinda name is that?" or "who names their kid 'Sylus'?" -- to their face. They'll also have to deal with things like intentional mispronunciations -- Sylus will become "Sinus" or worse. I have an unusual name and this happened to me ALL through school, from 1st grade all the way through high school.
It's not fun. I constantly asked my mother why she named me what she named me. It turns out she named me after her mother, but I still hate my name to this day because of how it was corrupted by mean kids in school.

Answer 10

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