how od you not get stressed over things you don't have any control over,Any Suggestions?

Answer 1

You have to ask yourself two questions:

Can I control this event/situation?
answer is yes - you figure out the solution
answer is no - move on to next question

Can I change this event / situation?
answer is yes - you figure out the solution
answer is no - move on to next question

Logic will prevail.

Can I control or change the weather? No I cant, move on to next question.

Can I control or change the way I dress? Yes. Hmmm, go to closet, look at dorky clothes go buy new ones that people say "wow, you look GOOD" to.

It's not about how easy it would be, it's about logic. If you can not physically, mentally or emotionally control or change the situation then you have to keep moving til you find a situation / event that you CAN change or control.

Answer 2

The trick is in recognising what you have control over and which you do not. After that it comes down to the details in the planning. Be selective in getting involved in some situations you are uncertain of -(avoid)

Over time your gut instinct should tell you.
We make choices in our lives that dictate success or failure - some things are worth having a go at somethings not.

Accept that everything we try in life will NOT turn out the way we want and revel in the ones that DO .
I guess the answer is not getting hung up on the outcome and being detached. It comes down to choices you make. Sorry it's a bit long.

Answer 3

Dear Eric,
My husband calls me his designated worrier--because he doesn't let himself get bogged down with things that he can't solve or fix. I, on the other hand, used to worry about everything and was constantly feeling stressed. I couldn't go to sleep right away and resented that he could--but, over time I began to see that he was right. No matter how much I worried about some things, I couldn't change them and my energy was wasted.

He is a very wise man and I have learned that he is right so I Iook at a lot of things differently now and don't lose sleep. So, no--it isn't odd for folks to not get stressed over things they don't have control over. On the other hand, there are people who really lose it over things they can't control and strive even harder to control them--and they aren't fun to be around. Way to uptight!
Brom

Answer 4

Having three children and a multitude of nieces and nephews I know that there are a lot of thing that aren't in my control. I have decided that to get upset over things that I can't control does me or my family any good. I just tell my self that most of the things that I can't control aren't that important any way and that most of them won't matter in two months. If it won't matter in two months than it's not worth getting upset over even if it seems like the the most important thing in the world right now. Ask your self will this really matter in my life six months from now or even a year from now. IF it won't than it isn't' important enough to to get upset over. I have lost 4 siblings before the age of 45 I have learned that to get upset over things that I can't control takes up to much energy and to much time that could be better spent other ways.

Answer 5

Of course you have no control over nature because its not your field of intervention.
Your mind must be like an Indian mind which allows it to accept the misfortune of nature's calamities. When the monsoons strike India the people take their suffering with rare equanimity. They accept what cannot be altered. They grieve, cremate their losses and carry on with their lives. I've found that a deeply spiritual way of coping with things that accompany life as their dual partners.

Answer 6

I am in same same boat. I worry about everything, literally. While speaking with a professional in my field, I was told to get someplace by yourself that is quite. Sit with your eyes closed and concentrate on breathing. Make your own "Happy Place" in your head. Make it very vivid and detailed. A field, a city park, a lake. When the worrisome thought crosses your mind, picture it as a cloud passing by you, and make it leave your view. Attempt this for at least 10mins a session. Some call it meditation. Hope I could help.

Answer 7

That is way easy. You can control yourself and what you do. Other people may be influenced by you, but they will do what they want which may not be what you want. You cannot do anything about it, so why get stressed about it? You have things that you can control to get stressed about. Why add more stress? I don't do it.

Answer 8

just remember this, a person is not judged to be good by how prepared for a certain situation he is but rather, how he will deal when that certain situation arises...of course, being prepared helps but since we cant always make sure everything goes into plan, lets just put into mind how we'll react to the situation whence the situation arises...

do we shout, answer calmly, go all over the place shouting and tearing everyone's head off....

Answer 9

WE DON'T NEED TO BE STRESSED ABOUT THE THINGS WE CAN CONTROL. BUT I'M NOT BIG ON CONTROL. WE ALL HAVE STRESS AND THAT'S NOT A BAD THING - IT HELPS US TO FIND THE MOTIVATION TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN. WHEN WE ARE MOBILIZED WE FIND WAYS TO COPE WITH STRESS AND REDUCE THE LOAD. IF YOU ARE STUCK OR DEPRESSED, STRESS WORSENS. COPING REQUIRES YOU TO DO SOMETHING (GET UNSTUCK, GET IT?). DON'T IGNORE STRESS - IT ONLY GETS WORSE. SHARE YOUR STRESS WITH OTHERS IF YOU CAN'T MAKE A PLAN OF ACTION.

Answer 10

Remember that you do not have control over anything but yourself. You can control how you react to things that are stressful. By reacting posititively, you are helping yourself.
Remain calm, confident & in control...