2007-08-25 13:33:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Make sure what you say is justifiable and good enough to agree to.At the end of the day we all have the right to our own opinion
2007-09-01 22:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by nickson faction 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several things combine to help gain someone's confidence. First, your body language. It must be assured without being cocky. Stand up straight, look people in the eye, don't fold your arms and if you use a hand gesture, make sure it's above the waist. A smile is important, but use them wisely. Don't just paste a grin on your face and leave it there, but don't act as if you just came from a funeral, either.
Second, your voice. Remember, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Be sincere, enthusiastic and straight forward.
Third, align yourself with this person. Find out some details about thier personal life, and show that you have similar interests. DON'T overdo it. If they say," I went to a Black Eyed Peas concert the last time they were in town," then don't say,"I did, too," or "I love the Black Eyed Peas." Instead, follow with an open ended question that reveals more about them while still showing your interest. Something like," I would LOVE to see them. Do you go to a lot of concerts?"
Next, get them to agree with several simple questions or statements before you start slipping in the 'big money' questions. There aren't any hard and fast rules to this. It's all about finesse. If I were selling a car, for example, I would say,"Do you like the color?" "Yes." "And you said that you didn't want to spend over $10,000, right?" "Yes." Etc.... Once you get someone saying "Yes", then you can ask the question that is really on your mind. "You like the car and it's in your price range. Let's go inside and crunch the numbers for you." Note that this is not phrased as a question. It's a statement. Depending on the situation, it could be any number of different things that you are 'asking' for. "You're free Friday night, and you still haven't seen 'Transformers'. I can pick you up at eight." "Everyone in the family loves dogs, and we're all willing to pitch in to take care of it, Mom. Let's go to the pet store tommorrow." This is called the 'assumptive' close. You don't ask for people to agree, you merely assume that they do.
Good luck (and if this tactic doesn't work, try begging!).
2007-08-25 20:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your homework. Write it all down with references. Quote. The more certain yu are of your point of view the more elegant your argument becomes. The contrary is true as well. Believe in what you say. And invite contradiction on the same terms in which you have put out yr point of view. Ask for references and continue the discussion to another day ...over coffee, tea or when you're out fishing. Never argue over a drink. The liquor triumphs.
2007-09-02 06:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by virtrava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide overwhelming, positive proof to a person in a way that doesn't affront or insult them and what they believe to be true and you have a good chance. Also helps to have huge amounts of charisma, like Charles Manson for instance. He was such a charismatic and charming man, he convinced normal people to commit murder.
2007-08-31 01:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Col B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Benjamin Franklin suggested that basically agreeing with people in some way set the stage for you to add "and...." and then segue into your opposing viewpoint.
Having set the stage for agreement by agreeing with them, they are, he said, more likely to agree with you.
Dale Carnegie also wrote a book about this.
You don't mention what it is that you want to have people agree with you about, though. "We should be happy about the next holocaust!" or "Do you want fries with that?!"
2007-09-02 03:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by B.F.Skinner Has Eaten My Dinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. It has to make sense. You say some off the wall stuff, no one will agree with you. Always tell the truth.
2007-09-02 00:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have confidence in yourself and don't ever contradict yourself. people's decisions aren't like buying a can of soup. it's takes much more than simple "do it". you must present your opinion strongly and you must never doubt them. if you do, then maybe you should influence yourself to agree with your ideas first. hope i helped!! just be confident and people will see your point of view. :]
2007-08-25 20:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be completely 100% convinced yourself, but don't feel like you have to convince or influence anyone else of what you believe. quiet confidence is extremely powerful. if you never DEFEND your views, people will naturally be curious about them. BTW you will never convince most people to agree with you.
2007-09-01 16:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by the answer is within you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard especially if you are WRONG. say you're right. first point out the facts. bring out and show evidences that support your idea. show to people your basis for saying what you said. if people still won't believe you, they're just too stubborn to accept mistakes or you are wrong. if they are the first kind, don't waste your energy on them.
2007-08-30 06:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you must be serious..about what your telling..dont make fun..try to have a self confidence and leadership so that they well feel that you are not joking..
and remember look at there eyes and try to open up your arms or move it to express what you really want to tell...
and ofcoures know your topic.. :)
2007-09-02 03:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by jfritz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋