She has decided to quit her job to take care of me. Im 6 weeks on Monday. However, she worries that daddies money wont stretch for too long and that I might need to be around other babies so I dont have attachment issues later. What is everyone opinions!!!!!
2007-08-25 13:21:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am a mommy of a 6 month old and 2 year old. I have not worked since my older son was born July 2005. It was a stretch at first, money wise. But we thought about it this way ... I could work and put the baby in daycare, and that alone would have eaten up a big chunk of what I would have been making; or, I could stay home and all said and done, we would have a little less money, but the baby would be with Mommy, which is absolutely wonderful for babies. I nursed him until he was 9 months, so being home was a lot easier, and I think having a parent as the primary, constant caregiver really gives babies a lot of confidence and assurance that they will always be loved. As far as being with other babies, I just play with my friends who have kids, and there are always play groups/mommy and me classes/ Stroller Strides, etc. Also, just around my sons second birthday, we put him in daycare two days a week, just he would learn socialization, listening and sitting still skills, and to be with other adults. It's working out well ... and if the baby is only 6 weeks old, there's no such thing as too much Mommy time, and they won't know if they're around other babies for a few more months anyway. Good luck, and enjoy your time with the little one!
2007-08-25 13:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by CAAM 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, you won't have attachment issues if you stick close to mum! As I'm sure you know, babies and mommies were designed to stick very close together for the first year at least.. that is why mommy has her breasts attached to her body, and why you will want to eat every 2 hours or so for the first few months of your life!
I don't know about daddy's job, but if there's any way your parents can arrange it, it would be in your best interest for mommy to stay home and take care of you. After all, who loves you more than mommy, and who will give you better care than mommy can? No one!
Tell mommy to spend every minute she can just soaking you up, because before she can blink, you'll be crawling, then walking, then running, then talking! Tell her to snuggle you up as much as she can and gaze into your inky newborn eyes, and remind her that the first year flies by incredibly fast... but not as fast as the second year, or the third year.... especially if you get a brother or sister, time sure flies once the babies come!
2007-08-25 14:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by inluck777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a stay at home mommy of 3 babies and soon to be 4.
my kids love being home with me and have never missed out on anything.
my oldest just started preschool and didn't have any attachment issues, she was ready to go and have fun. just leaves me hangin on at the door. :) lol
budgeting will be your mommys best friend and she will get good at it. you'll be surprised how far money can stretch.
as long as your daddy has a good enough job for your mommy to be able to pay all the bills and buy groceries and diapers ect...
You'll love being home with her and she and you will have a great bond. and she will never have to worry about what is going on at a daycare or how you are being taken care of and treated.
besides, if you are 6 weeks and can type this good i don't think she will have any problems :) lol
2007-08-25 13:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by 3 girls call me mommy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
WELL honey if your mommy is climbing the walls from staying inside because of not having any money to do anything fun... then maybe she would like to work part-time outside the home. It's kind of refreshing, to get away and do something outside the home. Taking care of and raising a child is the most important thing a mother can do, but she has to take care of herself and the rest of the family too. If this means she has to work, so be it.
However I'm not too worried about you having attachment issues later if your mom DOES stay home. I stayed home for 8 months with my son (I gritted my teeth ALOT. I was without transportation, TV/movies/cable, radio, internet, friends, family or any other stimulus besides my own mind and my son while his dad went out to "bring home the bacon.")... When I went back to work, he adapted quite nicely, and went to his grammas and a friend's as well as hanging out with babies and is developing well for his age...
2007-08-25 14:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant say thing about the money issues since I dont know how much your husband makes compared to the bills that you have but I can say this. Your baby is only 6 weeks old and your already thinking about day care so your child wont have attachment issues. Well, that's not the answer. Babies need their parents. You dont put a child in day care to alleviate attachment problems.
2007-08-25 13:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think it is far better if a parent be it mom or dad be home with the kids over day care if possible.there is nothing wrong using a trusted reliable baby sitter for a night out with your husband occasionally.if you can afford to stay home it is better.if it is unclear look over your budget.if you really want to you probably can but you will have to change your spending habits.if you need to maybe you can find a part time job but the most important thing is day care that is safe,reliable and affordable.good luck.
2007-08-25 13:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by dixie58 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I made the decision together for me to stay home to raise our kids, we have four! We live on a limited income, but we make it work. You may have to sacrifice a bit here and there, but the payoff is huge! You never have guilt that you missed out on something in your children's lives, and being able to go to their school plays, and PTA, sports activities, dance recitals...it's all worth it. Money is Money, but your kids won't be little forever!!
2007-08-25 13:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by maplunkett 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aw...well I think it depends on your mommy. Although family comes first, there several things I desire in order to truly be fulfilled. A career is one of them.
I need a challenging, intellectually stimulating work environment. Going home to your baby is always something to look forward to. That's me personally, your mommy may be different! My mom stayed home and I had an ideal childhood.
2007-08-25 13:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I haven't worked since 2003 i had my first child and i have baby. It's good to be home with your child
2007-08-25 14:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what she thinks is best and look for other ways to get money - look in the paper - if you think his money won't be enough.... and good luck!
2007-08-25 19:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋