At what age should a teen be allowed to listen to explicit music?

Question

Im 14 and my parents still dont let me download explicit music. I dont really agree with them because I already know all of the swears, and it's easy enough for me to listen to the explicit version of a song on Youtube, so why wont they buy me an explicit CD? Anybody know a good way to convince them?

The CD's that I would want to buy are of the Hip-hop/Rap genre, but my parents are fine listening to that in the car and stuff.

Ya i use limewire but my dad has an iPod too and occasionally he scrolls through my library :(

To the person who said that its "great" that I know all the swears: Well of course I do I am a teen there is no way to avoid it. Your probly just too old to remember anyway.

Answer 1

They may feel that you are giving tacit approval of the negative language and ideas in those songs

Answer 2

12

Answer 3

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Answer 4

15 or 16

Answer 5

There is no way to convince them that I can think of. I think your eagerness to listen to it might dissuade them - one of the ways a parent has to mark how "ready" a teen is to encounter an "adult" reality (such as explicit lyrics) is by how badly the teen wants to encounter it. You'd probably get permission to listen to such music much sooner if you acted like you were blowing it off, and that it really wasn't a big deal. "Eh, I guess it's no biggie - I'm curious, but whatever - you'll let me listen to it I guess when you think I'm ready. So be it."

They may sense the act, though, in which case you can forget ever hearing it until you're 18 and they can't stop you. ;-)

My kids, btw, would not have such taboos. They would be raised with such things as nudity and explicit lyrics being treated as commonplace and no big deal. I think that is the best way to give them a healthy attitude on such things - expose them to it, not in any -unusual- way or anything, but just by not avoiding it or treating it like something that shouldn't be talked about among family. They'd know some people are offended by such subjects and thus would learn not to bring them up in most public circles, but among family, there is no subject they could not explore or talk about openly, with whatever words they'd choose to use. Treating these things like they are "taboo" gives them a power they don't deserve, a power in the eyes of children that is not a healthy thing for them to perceive.

Answer 6

It is "great" that you know all the swearing. Did you know that once you know the words of a song, it tends to be stuck in your head. Then even in a few years when you listen to the song, there are always parts you remember. ( I still remember songs from when I was 5) So is it such a great idea to listen to them? I know for teens, swearing is "cool". Why? Cuz everyone is doing it! When you are in society, swearing is for low-class people. And it's like drugs. When you start, it's hard to stop. Listen to your parents. Good luck.

Answer 7

Your parents probably think that u will go around using "explicit" language all over the place. Tell them that you're a responsible teen and you know right from wrong (I hope u do).

Answer 8

ok tell ur parents that ur old enough to tell whats wrong from right and its just a couple of swear words... tell em that its not like u've never heard those words before and its everywhere... school, videos, movies, radio, ect. and if they still say no then ask them for a real reason why they wont let u listen to those songs... maybe its not just cuz of the cuss words maybe its cuz some song talk bout sex and such... so talk to them bout it... anyways hope i helped... good luck!

Answer 9

They should be able to at age 13. My mom never did though. I just burned it onto a CD and listened to it on a personal player. Good Luck.

Answer 10

they won't let you b/c they are overly-protective... I have limewire on my account with a password on a shared computer.. I listen to explict(and I mean very explict) music that my mom has no clue I even listen to...I've been listening to it for about 4 years now....

I go by the old saying "what they don't know, won't hurt 'em!"

Answer 11

To convince them to change their minds? No. But try this: discuss the music with them - hear out any objections they have to it (without starting an argument with them!) and tell them why you like it. Having open lines of communication is helpful.

My mom let us listen to whatever we wanted growing up (I had 2Live Crew and Cypress Hill) but she let us know why she didn't exactly jump for joy about it.