LDR and im Pregnant!?

Question

OK my dilemma....

I found out by a HPT that im preggo's....

I havent heard from my boyfriend whom im in a LDR with for over 5 days....I know where he is and his cell phone is dead...but he is on a bender with some friends of his and cant be bothered calling me or buying a charger to call me.....I dunno whether we are 'on' or if we are 'off'.....the last time we spoke we had an arguement.....basically i told him he should go home cause he has been sleeping in his car at friends places for 1 1/2 weeks....he got annoyed with me...said he loved me half heartedly and said would call me later.....which he never did....

I dont know how to break the news to him...1: I herd from his friend he doesnt know when he is comin home 2: There is an age difference between us, im older 3: His family is Muslim and I am non-muslim....

Is this a disaster about to happen.??.

I am 27 and feel I am ready to raise this child.....i would really love his support.....but if not...it would really sadden me as I love him very much....

....when we start talkin again....do u think i should wait a few weeks before telling him im preggos....I just dont want to push him to the edge when i do tell him or scare him off.

Answer 1

Disaster? Definitely. But how bad is up to you, because ultimately you have control of your own life and that of your unborn baby. You have choices. You can make good choices that will benefit your (and baby's) well being, or you can continue down a road of uncertainty, instability, mistrust, and emotional upheaval.

You really need to decide if you're in a place right now to have and raise a child - and can you do it alone if necessary? Only once you answer that question can you move forward and take steps towards having a healthy baby and a healthy life.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Take a deep breath and think about what is best for the baby. If you are not ready to be a full-time mother to the child, then consider adoption. There are so many couples who would love to have a child, but cannot.

Next time you speak to your boyfriend, tell him about the pregnancy. He has a right to know. And then tell him what your plans are.

Praying you will make a good choice!

Answer 3

ok i hope i say this the ways i am thinking...my sister is married to a guy that is also muslim and thank God his family took her in cause well she also got pregnant before they were married and as of today they have been together for about 15 years now and all worked out find..i wouldnt worry about the age cause love happens to everyone no matter what age and last i think when u talk to him just tell him straight out and tell him your plans and issues with it and go from there...i wish u the best!

Answer 4

Sure sounds like he has some issues to sort out - you being preggers might put him into a real danger zone!? How do you feel about raising a child on your own? Sounds like a real possibility you should consider (or check out other options before telling him?)