i have this thing where i get so angry that i can't stop expressing it. often it comes in the form of feeling that i've been "wronged" or betrayed by someone. i'll get so overwhelmingly mad that i can't express the depth of the anger to the person. the person will usually get angry back, or walk away, or somehow try the end the conversation -- which just makes my anger deeper and more impenetrable / inexpressable.
my question is twofold:
1) how do i deal with the anger while still expressing the depth of it (which is deeply important to me)?
OR
2) should i just be "getting over" it and trying to prevent little things from getting to me so much?
ugh... please help, i'm frustrated and drained and don't know what to do anymore. thanks.
2007-08-25 12:14:52 · 9 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you dont want to hurt anyone....you can just write or draw something---Or exercise_ Go for a jog- Or you cAN always fight somebody!
2007-08-25 12:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Panda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
anger is more about power and control than actually being angry. Think about it. Think about the last time you got angry - thinking back, was it really worth all the passion you expended? Are you still holding a grudge? Do you hold onto resentments waiting to fire back at someone? Do you know how to forgive yourself? If you have a hard time forgiving yourself, do you think it's possible to forgive anyone else?
Do you find yourself being without friends? Do you really want friends but don't know how to maintain friendships because you're more likely than not, pushing people away?
There are about 8-10 different anger styles - get yourself a book on anger management and read it with an open mind. It is fixable.
2007-08-25 13:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is to avoid it. You should not become so dependent on other people. That way, if they do betray you, you do not feel like you have lost that much. I have often felt that I am more loyal to people than they are to me, but I do not stretch myself to thin or promise more than I can keep. I do not have high expectation that people will fulfill commitments, but I know they are human and I have come to expect disappointment. When you expect less, disappointment brings less anger and more sympathy. I also do not harbor resentments, I let them go. I have no need to carry excess baggage - I have things to do, I don't need to worry about losses. I used to like the Paul Simon song, I am a Rock, I am an Island, but I have gotten softer and more rounded edges over the years. I've become a sponge!
2007-08-25 12:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a healthy outlet for your anger; perhaps journaling or painting. A lot of people cry when angry and it's ok to cry even if you don't like it. Maybe you have issues from your past that can shed light on why you react with anger. I would suggest you consult an expert. Anger can tear up your life.
Best of luck!
2007-08-25 12:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tam Tam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger can be a very unhealthy thing if you can't let go of it.
I get angry alot, but it only hurts me and the people around me. I have learned to stop, think, evaluate, and let go.
There are times when it is healthy to vent out loud, but most times, the other person doesn't even know your angry.
If you are thin skinned , your feelings get hurt easily. I have learned to let most things roll off my back, I still have issues with dumb drivers, working on it.
2007-08-25 12:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer understand that your best help would be from a stranger on yahoo; to your concern i could seem to talk with a particular chum which you comprehend or a college counselor. With that reported my own suggestion to you would be to do your best to sidestep any concern the place you will get that "anger" feeling. At that 2d punching the toddler or combating could look like the best factor of do yet after it is all reported and finished it gets you nowhere. it could end him from working his mouth yet then you certainly could have extra to difficulty approximately; you're expelled from college and then ought to difficulty approximately your finished destiny. As each and every physique says, "it is in basic terms no longer well worth it." you will look returned at the instant in like 2 or 3 years from now and additionally you will think of.. remember that one fool that observed as people names... I wager he's worked at a vehicle wash someplace for minimum salary (no offense vehicle wash workers). think of of reasonable a activity. you already know the regulations to the activity. in case you play the activity this variety, what's going to ensue next? the place will that positioned you? Will that be nearer to the place you want to be in existence or will it create you extra problems and positioned you farther faraway from the place you want to be? in basic terms think of roughly it and that i'm specific you will make the wonderful determination. in basic terms think of roughly the place the loser calling you names will end and and the place you would be - it will make you chortle extremely of having indignant. -Anthony
2016-10-09 05:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by warford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I'm the same way because i ahev some bottled up but I get so mad I have to scratch my neck man because it feels like somethings stuck in my chest.
2007-08-25 12:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try masterbating first, then think about it.
2007-08-25 12:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadness (i.e crying) supresses anger you know
2007-08-25 12:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Danu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋