I have accepted a job back in my home down. It was a long testing process, but I am finally in. I start Oct. 1st. My GF of over a year has no idea. I made the decision not to tell her, as I wanted to make this decision for me and ONLY me. I did not want any outside influences.
I am a little nervous about telling her, as I dont want to hurt her. I am also afraid of feeling regret over this, but I know I need to live my life. I am only 22, and I am passionate about my career. She will not move with me, so that is out of the question.
Whats the best way to do this? And when woudl the best time be? Wait till the very last minute, or now?
2007-08-25 11:44:42 · 8 answers · asked by handguns_4_hearts 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The best time was months ago. you should of been honest from the get go. Now you are going to hurt her deeply because all you cared about was you. thats fine.You just need to be honest. Put yourself in her place.She is in love with the greatest guy,has a future with him, tells mom he might be the one. Her friends say they wished they had a good man like you.... Oh by the way, I'm moving tomorrow. i just had to tell you and be upfront. You lost already. You are what women call...A loser
2007-08-25 11:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by recon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's great that your following your passion. If you really love her, be honest with her. Let her make that decision on what she wants to do. But you have to let her know what you plan to do. Don't break up with her. Ask her what she wants to do after you tell her what you're doing. If she really loves you, she will be understanding. That way it's open for suggestion. There may be a solution to the problem. She may want to meet you half way with this. Who knows! Think about it. Take her to dinner and talk about it. You have my blessings. Then again you might find out that's not where you want to be if you don't have the one you love to share it with. You never know. I wouldn't make a final decision yet. Maybe I would say "I going to check it out for a while and see what happens. But keep her in touch. Don't wait for the last minute. That would be chicken sh. . . . Be a true gentlemen. I wish you and her the best.
2007-08-25 19:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Nuttybrunett 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you wait any longer, she will just be angrier. If this is a career you have always dreamed of, and this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, she will understand. If this is a job that you could get where you are currently living, she probably won't understand. However, I do not know how serious the relationship is, or the availability of this job.
Bottom line: the sooner you tell her, the better. Who knows, she may decide that she loves you enough to make a sacrifice and move too!
2007-08-25 18:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain it to her the way you have it here and do it ASAP. She may not accept it, but being honest will ease any pain you feel if the relationship is over.
2007-08-25 18:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her honestly. Then, enjoy your career.
2007-08-27 03:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now.
It is plain to see that you don't love her as you left her out of the whole process. She will see that too.
Good riddance to you.
2007-08-25 18:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her now. be honest with her. treat with the respect she deserves.
2007-08-25 19:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is her life she is hindering, not yours
2007-08-25 18:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋