Are bills ever easier to pay?
Are the kids EVER going to be stable and productive members of society?
Will my Bride of ten years and I ever have a chance to "stop and smell the flowers."
It just seems like the problems NEVER stop.
2007-08-25 10:07:25 · 17 answers · asked by Erik A 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Eric after answering and seeing all of your questions the past few days my thought is you are in a sever state of depression and need to do a bit of self assessment to try and fix it. You have taken on a diabetic and are spending time with him and your family loves him and yet you always seem to be confused over your daily life. I worked my mind, fingers and back to the bone when I was raising children--I too took on extra things as in kids thrown out by parents and kids that needed a place to feel at home or a home cooked meal--I always took care of me and my family first. You need to chill a bit--face the mirror and find an answer in your life. Hope you don't block me because of saying what I see--I have been known to be wrong before. Peace Love and Laughter--main ingredients to living.
2007-08-26 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by lilabner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Erik A - Having problems is a part of life.
Based on my experience thus far, I would say yes, bills will get easier to pay (no owing anyone helps), yes the kids will be stable and productive, and you and your bride will definitely get to stop and smell the flowers (retirement). Just hang in there! I thought it would never happen either!!!
2007-08-25 10:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a bit young to answer (20 yrs old), but here's my two cents.
as we grow older, we have more and more to worry about. When we are younger, a lot of things rest on the parent's shoulders - food, clothes, etc. move on your own, and you have to take care of that, plus bills. Now I don't have kids yet, but I do know from my own experiance that it takes a LONG time to establish one's self. I have been trying for two years and STILL have to rely on my parents to help me with some things. I feel guilty because I am bankrupting them.
as far as stopping and smelling the flowers... that comes when you weed out unnecicary worries and -make- time. if you don't -make- the time, you won't ever be able to!
my advice is set aside one day a week for doing nothing but what comes to mind. get everything for that week done early and make tripple sure nobody's going to bother you and your bride. then, just sit down and brainstorm on what you two would like to do together - whether it's taking a walk in the park so you LITERALLY can stop and smell the flowers or just watching TV, it's bound to be relaxing.
2007-08-25 10:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to make time, there is no guarantee for tomorrow. Your life or the life of a loved one could end at any giving moment.
My husband had a massive heart attack about 3 years ago and literally died on the table. Thank God, he came back to me.
If you don't make the time to do the things you want to do, they will never materialize. Take the time to enjoy the finer things in life.
We also lost our home in Houston during Allyson, we lived on the north side of Houston, 98 miles from the ocean. Who would ever think that you would need flood insurance that far away from the ocean. We were told that we could not rebuild. There was no fema, no relief. We moved back to the Florida Keys where we love it.
If you spend your whole life chasing the almighty dollar that is all you'll get.
This is not a dress rehearsal, this is life and time is slipping away one day at a time. There is no hitch on a hearse and you can't take it with you.
I don't understand people who continue to try to keep up with the Jone's.
Materialist items, you don't own them, they own you.
It is a never ending vicious cycle and if you buy into it then you never get out of it.
People now days are living off of credit cards, borrowed money, that's crazy. My rule of thumb is, if you don't have the money for it then you don't need it.
I wish you well:~) and happiness:~)
2007-08-25 15:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately, NO.... face it, without challenges, what would you do for a life. ?? But trust that one day, all your energy will not be spent on finding money to pay bills....as the kids leave, as time passes, you will find you have more descretionary income, will worry less about bill paying. BUT, my advice is..you are NEVER that busy...stop and smell a rose today! Stop and say "I love you" to your wife. Try it out on the kids (they will not believe you, but say it anyway). If they do not hear it from you, you will not hear it from them, and worse, their kids will not tell them. AND, if you have done a decent job, your kids will leave home at 18 or after college...whatever. Once they do that, they are on their own! You were, the same must be true for them. We do our kids NO favors by saving their butts again and again..especially when it comes to money! Some things cannot be avoided...a collapsed marriage and grandchildren in danger...but, when kids have to have the latest TV instead of paying bills, don't be there to bail them out...very bad thing to do, teaches them only to be irresponsible with money. Let them go hungry once and bet you it will not happen again. Too often, our kids look at our bank account as if it were their own...well, it ain't!
2007-08-25 11:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bills only get easier if you make more money. The kids do ''grow'' up but they will always need us.
Your bride and all the rest of us have to take the time to ''smell the flowers''
Eventually you will learn not to let life upset you so much. Crap happens and you can be upset,throw a fit or cry and they will still be the same. My motto....Roll with it baby!
2007-08-25 18:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are retired and having a ball. Our kids are married with kids of their own. Yes, life gets better as you go along. Enjoy every minutes of your life. Don't dwell on the bills, the kids, the house, etc. Make yourself look up and enjoy what you have.
This will help you:
If you want to read and learn God's Word, here is a day by day outline on how to read and study the Bible:
http://kcm.org/studycenter/bible/january.php
2007-08-25 10:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make them stop! I try to give myself 10 minutes to worry and then I say, "no more today". Doesn't always work, but sometimes is better than never. You can only offer advise to your adult children if they want it. You can't fix their lives, they have to do that themselves. You are not the Red Cross, you are not the Bank, you are not the Welfare Office. Draw a line because it's your time to have a good time. Yes, make yourself stop to smell the roses.
2007-08-25 13:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that I'd already had more than my share of adversities, and that like vaccination that protected me from any more. Just magical thinking. Much greater tragedies befell me-which sure cured me of that magical thinking. On average, most people will continue to encounter problems. Surviving horrible tragedies does make you stronger though. With all your worries, STOP and think of what you still have that so many others don't.
2007-08-25 11:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by rationallady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does and it is all worth it. You will look back on these years with memories that will make you smile. Try to enjoy each day and with it the problems that come your way. As you get older and wiser life won't have it's challenges. Things get so easy that a little excitement is welcome.
2007-08-25 11:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by plyjanney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋