My husband and I are not religious. We are Atheists. My husband has a friend that is very religious. This weekend my husband was invited to go to a men's Bible Camp with him. I am thinking "Promise Keepers." He was invited last year as well and our therapist said it was asinine for my husband to even consider stretching his time (and mine) even further by attending something like this. My husband has made repeated comments about not going to Bible Camp this weekend. Like he did me a huge favor. The whole thing makes no sense. It's like he has a low self esteem and changes with each friend.
It seems so silly to spend time on something that he doesn't even believe in... he even makes fun of this guy on my clock.
Not here to debate religion!!! You won't change my mind. Please just turn the question around as to whether you would want your spouse to go to Atheist Camp if you are a devout Christian.
2007-08-25 09:46:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
May not have anything at all to do with religion, but more as a getaway for him.
I guess it could be worse, it could be a conference for female strippers.....:)
I am Jewish, I am in love with a devout Catholic (No, my mother is NOT pleased), but if Ally chose to go to a Budhist convention with a friend, then so be it.
2007-08-25 09:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think religion actually factors into this. I'm neither a Christian nor an Atheist, and if John wanted to go to something like this my only questions would be:
1. Is it doing to do us financial harm?
2. Is it going to do our relationship any harm?
3. Is it going to cause him any harm?
It seems like his attending would cause your relationship harm right now. So many decisions in marriage aren't about right or wrong, but about what is right for the couple as they are where they are at that moment. He clearly has issues to deal with at home, and a person doesn't go out and play when they're needed at home, regardless of the name of the play.
His attitude about not going is wrong. When you make a sacrifice out of concern for your family, you don't then emotionally blackmail them afterwards. Sure, you'll mention a few over the years when you need validation, but it's different to hold a sacrifice over someone's head. Then, it's not about doing what's best for a loved one, but about getting out of an argument and expressing resentment.
Explain to him that even if he planned to go to a fantastic Atheist camp you'd protest, because you both need to have a private Camp David about your marriage.
2007-08-25 10:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he just invited to attend the camp or did he accept the invitation? There is a huge difference. If he was invited and accepted then perhaps he isn't as devoted an atheist as you are. I'm sure his friend invited him just to be generous, making fun of him behind his back seems cruel. As to your question, I would want my spouse to attend any camp that she wanted to. What harm could it do?
2007-08-25 09:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"It seems so silly to spend time on something that he doesn't even believe in" Maybe he isn't SURE of what he believes in. One can say they are athiest and yet be unsure if that is REALLY how they feel or not. Do you think the world will end tomorrow if he attends bible camp?
2007-08-25 10:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you have a Divorce therapist, So you must be trying different interventions to save it. The marriage that is. Well--as the Bible quote goes--"even the small dogs eat the morsels that fall from the table" And because of faith in that truth Jesus told the woman who said it- "woman because of your faith your daughter is healed" Even a previous unbeliever learns by hearing and faith comes by hearing, so any way the word is heard the recipient is better for it!
2007-08-25 09:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I even have an analogous feeling. i'm getting dealt with in yet in a various way plenty in accordance with my faith (Atheist as properly). i think you will bump into 3 sorts of people there. people keen to settle for the reality you're there for knowledgeable applications, the people who will try to transform you, and the people who will label you as a 'heathen'(in line with probability too stable a be conscious) and wouldn't have something to do with you. ideal suggestion i ought to offer you is be your self and in the event that they question your faith answer to the better of your skills, their faith is not extra suited and no worse than yours. and people who think of that their faith is extra better or that they are extra suited than you via fact they have self assurance in God, are thoroughly incorrect. those that settle for you even although you do no longer share an analogous concept are those that are top.
2016-10-16 23:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with you.
He sounds like he does has low self esteem because most of the people I know who are religious are scared shite-less, and they use religion as a crutch just to get by.
2007-08-25 09:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian and no, I wouldn't allow my spouse to go to "atheist camp"....I'm a bit confused here about why all the uproar about this. Why doesn't he just say no, thanks, and be done with it?
However......you ARE seeing a therapist...maybe God couldn't do any worse.
2007-08-25 09:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it would be a total waste of time for your husband and everyone else in the camp.It would be like sending a pig to voice lessons, it wastes everyones time and it really annoys the pig.BTW I'm an athiest too.
2007-08-25 09:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He can do what he wants. He's a grown man. Maybe he's just curious. So what if he wants to go. Maybe he doesn't want to be a atheist anymore. He can change his mind if he wants to.
2007-08-25 09:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋