my husbands boss gave him 2 tickets for a banquet for us to go with him and his wife. the banquet is tonight, and i am sick as a dog!! i have a fever, sore throat, and all kinds of other issues, and my husband knows how sick i am. he hasnt even mentioned us not going to this thing tonight. he wont go without me, and i kinda feel like he should offer to find someone else to go...(lots of other managers would be happy to go). i wanna know how others would handle this. i dont want to disappoint him by telling him that i dont feel like going, i just feel like he should offer...just want some opinions of any married couples...thanks in advance
2007-08-25 08:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by poodle mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, as a husband myself. I would be staying home and taking care of my wife under such circumstances. Without hesitation. I'm sure there will be other opportunities to attend other banquets. So tell him you're just not up to it and suggest maybe finding someone else this time to take the tickets before it gets too much later. It certainly wouldn't cause me any suffering to stay home with my wife and take care of her under such circumstances. She's my best friend. When she's sick, I belong at home with her. No disappointment for me.
2007-08-25 09:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by clabou81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband should be told that you are not going, and he has a choice, to call the boss and he could give the tickets to someone else, or your husband could go by himself, explaining that you became very ill and could not attend, or call someone to go in your place( his mom, sister, brother,etc.) No matter what your husband has to understand that you are ill and should not be going out of the house. Your health is more important than spending an evening with the boss.
2007-08-25 09:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, and if it was me, I'd tell him to find someone else to go there. It's just for one night and why disapoint him if he can be out having fun. If you need the sleep and rest anyway, why not he just go. Just tell him you insist he goes with a friend or someone from work or sister or whoever and come home and tell you all about it. Oh yeah, can you bring me some tissues and 7 up and crackers (or medicine you need)?
I just don't beleve that being married means we have to do EVERYTHING together. As I'm sitting here typing, I'm in a hotel with my mom, relaxing while my husband is at home and my daugher is at my mother in laws. WE have times when we are all together and times when as we call it "me time".
2007-08-25 09:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pwincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should go by himself and let his boss know that you would have loved to have been there but you were in bed very ill. His boss may not understand if he just didn't show up or if he found someone else to go in his place. He may be looking at a promotion soon and his boss may be getting to know him better in order to make a final decision.
2007-08-25 09:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right...You really shouldn't go so sick...you will just be miserable. I would have you husband call his boss and explain the situation...maybe the boss has another person to invite or maybe your husband could bring another work colleague...like you said. Good luck...and stay in bed!! :)
2007-08-25 09:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at first, makes me ask your self why you men could do something like this because of the fact it makes you look desperate and that's the two unusual on the ladies' section too. yet regardless of floats your boat and that i attempt to have relaxing!
2016-10-03 05:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by monte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, yes he should at least ask if you're ok to go, being sick and all. but sometimes men just don't think of these things till we tell them. Just tell him if he'd like to go and make a suggestion who he might ask to go with him.
2007-08-25 09:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak up soon. He cannot read your mind. If he doesn't offer the tickets to one of his co-workers, you could. Don't go and spread your germs.
2007-08-25 09:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in his shoes, I would call my boss, explain the situation, find two other people who would and could go, give them the tickets.
Then I would stay home and take care of you....:)
But....that's just me.....
2007-08-25 09:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are this sick, i would not go either. if he won't go without you, thats okay too, nothing wrong with that either. if he really wants to go then, thats fine too. like u said, other managers would like to go too. at the end, its your husbands choice.
2007-08-25 09:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋