I have to write a four chapter short story type thing, 'childhood, pre-teens, mid-teens, now' kind of thing. There are lots of things I am just too afraid to talk about YET. I know I will eventually have to, but this will only be my second session! I'm just not ready to reveal EVERYTHING. This 'thing' in my past I don't want to bring up, is basically what has defined me completely. It's what's causing ALL of the crap in my life.
I want to know, should I mention in my story that there are things I am not yet comfortable discussing, or should I just omit it? I'm worried he's going to be very curious to know what I'm hiding. I'm afraid he's going to push me to tell him and open up. Use psychologist mind games! lol What do I do?
2007-08-25 08:36:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Really honey, the reason why you are seing a psychologist is because you are seeking HIS help so that YOU can help yourself.
SO what is the point of seeing him if he can;t help you. The only way he can help you is if you try to do what he assigns you and take the apportunity to discuss all the issues yo are afraid of discussing. He willl not (I AM SURE) think little of you or go around shooting his mouth. THey are sworn by confidentiality. IF your worry is that what you tell him sounds really bad and very degrading for you. then again relax. These guys have seen and heard so many things that nothing really is new.
A lot of people would have gone through what you have and may have already seen him. Even if they have not, there are numerous case studies that psychologist read up on before they are certified. SO go ahead, use your psycholigist. You are not paying him for nothing.
Good luck
2007-08-25 08:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I myself have issues with how they get to the bottom or beginning of our problems.If I were a psychologist I would give patients a check list much like a regular doctor gives us for past illnesses and surgeries. It seems that many therapists believe the most common problem is sexual child abuse and or child abuse and or neglect. They seem to expect us to live and plan for the future and live in the now instead of the past.
I remember having one therapist who lost his patience with me and told me he had to go for long walks all of the time because people stew in their past problems and procrastinate doing anything about it. It's as if it's why they can't move on with their lives. The other comment I've heard from friends is: "Get over it!" I think it takes time to really know yourself better anyway. Some people forget that they aren't the only ones with the same issues.
2007-08-25 16:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a psychologist. If he's a good one then he'll let you open up in your own time. Although a lot of people have issues these days and psychologists can be absolutely pushed for time.
Just tell him in your own time. I'm sure once you eventually get it out though, you'll feel better. But good luck, hope you work through your past issues.
2007-08-25 15:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not doing it for his knowledge. He's asking you to do it so that YOU can get it out of yourself, for you. So, if you want, just make up a bunch of lame stuff to give to him if it's important for some reason to satisfy some writing requirements to get yourself outta trouble, BUT! In the meantime, it will be important for you to do something like that for your future sanity. Your future self will look back and thank you. And remember that sometimes we are victims of circumstance, meaning everything is not your fault. And there's no such thing as ghosts.
2007-08-25 15:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kentucky Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would find a better Dr.
You are there paying this person for help, and through that is discussion, and this one asks you to write it out?
And if you are not yet comfortable discussing the issue, why are you going??
When you find a good Dr, you will be comfortable, and the words will flow.
2007-08-25 16:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by outtahere2day 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In your 4-chaptered story, just refer to an episode that remains very sensitive to you in a particular chapter, and that you prefer to wait until you know him better, before you start dealing that that issue. If he's a good therapist, he'll know how to deal with it and help you deal with it productively!! That's good that you are protective of yourself--and recognize that YOU need to gain trust in your therapist! It would be very damaging to you if someone pushed you faster than you're ready to deal with issues!!
2007-08-25 16:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Martell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Why not provide us with some more information about "the thing", so we can provide more focussed advice?
2007-08-25 15:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Always Hopeful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him/her you aren't comfortable doing that yet.
2007-08-25 15:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jealousheartswillleaveusinruins♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋