My family turned their back on me?

Question

i told everyone i was gay.that i was inlove with a lass at work and we was going to live together.
i told my bloke and left him everything in our apartment.
my mother told me she wishes i was dead and that she will never have grand kids now.
she said i was a freak and that i was not normal
i am so mixed up right now i feel like ending myself

sorry about the typo i am pretty loaded right now

Answer 1

I'm sorry that ur mom cant accept u right now. Maybe she is in shock and will come around. Please dont end ur self its not worth it. If u are happy and happy with who u are with then be happy, if the others cant accept u then that's their lose.

Answer 2

I think it's not right what your mom told you. Best is must have been on the spot and hopefully she regrets it. Nothing should stop a mother from loving her kid.

And you left all behind you.

Look I did the same not for a lover but for other reasons. I left it all. And built a new life cause my relatives and my man were doing my head in in another country. A coward I was, don't think so. Cause, change the environment, things change. And then you can be yourself. Do what you really want, love who you really want.

Then, if your family are right, they'll come around. They're just people. Up to them. You only need you and the people who really love you.

Best.

Answer 3

sometimes, family hurts you more than anyone. they dont understand how you feel, and unless they experience feelings for the same sex, they probably never will. i'm so sorry for what you had to go through. this is something new to them, and right now they say hurtful things because they dont know how to deal with their feelings.

maybe you have old fashioned parents who strictly believe in the whole guy and girl relationship. they are wrong for not hearing you out and they are even worse for turning their backs. please, dont do something terrible to yourself. other people in the world do understand you, and you are not alone. you have a choice - either let this beat you down, or pick yourself back up and live your life. no one can make you happy but you. it may hurt for a while what ur family did, but you're strong and you will make it. keep your head up, sweety.

Answer 4

Danielle, your mother was speaking out of hurt. It is not your fault that she is hurt however. She made a bad, spur of the moment decision to value a possible future granchild over her own daughter... but she will probably see the error in that with a little time. Let things calm down and then take it from there.

Who you choose to live with and give your love to is your decision - no one elses.



For the hateful people hiding behind their religion:

Remember God gave free will to every person on this earth for a reason. Being hateful towards a person in a lot of pain (regardless of your personal views on sin) is both inexcusable and hypocritical. Remember your own sins before adding self-righteousness and being hateful to that list.

Answer 5

Please turn your computer off and contact your local mental health help line. It is perfectly all right to be gay. Your mother said a lot of selfish horrible things; I am sorry you are in so much pain , but you must go on. You said you are loaded....not a good thing. Clear your head and get the support you need. Be who you are. Best wishes and please get the support you need so you can heal. It is so hurtful to have people you love lash out at you. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you as you are.

Answer 6

Ignore what your parents say because they have been brought with different beliefs but being gay is normal so don't end your your life because there is a world out there that has women that are in the same situation and i know a few gay people and they don't act worried of what other family members say .

Answer 7

First off, step away from the damn booze before you hurt someone! Then, go talk to someone about it. Work on getting over what happened or else you're just going to stay miserable. I'm sure that's not how you really want to live so go talk to someone and work through this. Good luck.

Answer 8

BORING...we need more gay muslims, at least their parents do something about it, like declare Jihad.

"she said i was a freak and that i was not normal"
I get this everyday and must tell at least 20 people a week this. It is nothing. You should have laughed in her face for the pathetically weak insult.

Answer 9

Many parents react really horribly to such news. They do especially if it was totally unexpected. Often parents have some suspicions so it doesn't come as a complete surprise.

If may take some time for your mom to come around. Look online for an organization called PFLAG. http://www.pflag.org/ See if they have a local group or you can download any information.

If there is a local group, you can contact them and see if one of them would contact your mom to talk.

Answer 10

Just give everyone time to come to terms with it, you just came out to them and right now they're shocked. Hopefully your mother didn't mean what she said, if she did then she's a heartless person {Sorry, but she is}. I know how you feel, a lot of people in my family turned their backs on me too, i've had friends to turn their backs on me also. In June i lost a friend i had for 41 years, but it's her lost not mines!

Answer 11

I'm really sorry about that.

Your mom will probably soften up in time, even though her reaction is horrible.

You should get back some of the stuff in your apartment.

You must really love the lass at work, so that's cool that you're going to live together.