And then you find out you were DEAD WRONG?
And does the hurt ever get easier?
2007-08-25 08:14:23 · 16 answers · asked by Lisa the Pooh 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Of course we hate it and no, it doesn't ever get easier unless you completely detach and become a person with no feelings or emotions.
2007-08-26 02:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No - the trust can never get easier - well for sometime.
Trust is an important virtue in society and without it, our society would simply run haywire. Without trust, could one give they're money to a bank. Without trust, could one give they're trust to a spouse. There are people in this world, who actually "enjoy" breaking the hearts of others - which is a very very sad fact.
The hurt doesn't get any easier in my opinion because you have loved/trusted them, but they didn't do the same back. And for some apparent reason, some want the people who play "hard to get" or those that mistreat them.
I've been hurt many many times and I don't wish to get hurt anymore. Trusting someone is simply a trial and error process - the more you trial and error - the better you become at trusting the real one's that you love and the one's that love you.
However, saying that you will not trust anyone is even worse that someone using your trust. If you can't trust someone, then one is cheating. But they are not cheating anyone. They are cheating themselves. There is enough problems on this planet as it is and simply not trusting anyone just adds a whole new list of problems.
My Advice:
- Try not to give your trust so easily.
- Do subtle interrogations on the one's you want to trust.
- If you want to trust someone, look at their history and background e.g. are they good at making friends, are they heartbreakers, how many times have they divorced etc.
There is an old saying: "Fool me once - shame on me. Fool me twice - haha you can't fool me no more."
2007-08-25 08:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's a case of spousal / best-friend "tryst of trust-breaking " flavor, it's painful beyond words.
wondering if each of us (maybe) has done trust-betrayal in our own life-histories .. there are 'levels' of betrayal maybe, and have you ever told one friend that you were doing something else so that you could go with another friend? Is *that* betrayal? Maybe a "minor" trust infringement ... there are worse ... and maybe there are even more minor instances ...
"favorites"? .. "change" ? ... pain?
"can't have one without the o-ther" ?
doesn't happen very often to me ... maybe I don't trust people enough then ... dunno
black-&-white ?? or "grey" ?
betrayal sucks
I can't remember when the last time it happened, feeling kinda dumb now.
on the other side of the coin: [I betrayed a trust 30 years ago ... hated myself for doing so]
2007-08-25 09:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by atheistforthebirthofjesus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, everybody hates that. The hurt doesn't get any easier, but you learn to not trust as easily.
2007-08-25 08:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by ahandle101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the hurt should get easier,I just wish i knew when. I have a very difficult time trusting right now :\
2007-08-25 11:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do hate that. The pain does go away, but you will never be able to trust that person like you once did.
2007-08-25 08:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Angel of Death says F-IT! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hate that.
That's why I only trust certain people...
One minute somebody is nice, then the next minute they turn mean.
One minute somebody is your friend, then the next minute you find out they are talking about you behind your back.
Once again I only trust certain people.
Not the ones that I have a bad feeling about.
2007-08-25 08:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Just Brandon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I could have written this exact same question today!!
The answer is an uneqivacable YES! And I am DEAD WRONG!
2007-08-25 09:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be devastating. It can hurt for a very long time in some cases.
Time does heal.
Find something else to focus your attention on and this will aid you.
2007-08-25 11:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by lovely_lady_lavender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust no one honey. In the world today, own judgement is more important than anything else now.
Cheers :)
2007-08-25 10:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Larry L - Hi Everyone :D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋