my ex husband's psycho ***** wife seems to think that she is the ruler of MY children. how do i deal with this without ending up in jail????
2007-08-25 08:04:15 · 18 answers · asked by shannon p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you find out let me know because I'm dealing with the same thing.
Though I did tell her the last time she got in my face one more time I would make sure it would be the last. When she ask if that was a threat I said no I was just leting her know.
2007-08-25 08:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him no, never, no way ....learn to say it in other languages if you need to, but don't let him bring his ex into your home! If she's been divorced for 3 years & can barely speak English, that's her problem. There are so many places in this country that would have helped her. IF she had learned, maybe she could have found a better job. It sounds like she's looking to get her meal ticket back at your expense. Unless they had children, he no longer has any responsibility for her after this long. And if he really loves you, he should understand how you feel & why you feel that way. If he won't listen to you, try to get him into counseling with you. If that doesn't work, you may be in for a lot of heartache. Good luck - you may need it!
2016-04-01 23:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to deal with an ex when children are involved. I am on the other side, however, I have a fairly good relationship with my step son's mother. I treat him the way I would want her to treat my son if the tables were turned. It's very hard to be a stepmother...you are expected to treat them like your own, but when it comes to discipline it's a very tricky situation. The children still need it as it is not fair to let them get away with behaving inappropriately...but what are the stepmother's responsibility. I would get your ex involved. He is the one that brought the new wife into the picture in the first place. He needs to step up and deal with this instaed of putting you two in the middle.
2007-08-25 08:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your ex. It could be you have the wrong slant on her. If your ex has custody she is the boss of them when they are in her house. Don't believe everything the kids tell you. Then again, maybe she is psycho. Find out the specifics of what she says and does as a stepmom.
2007-08-25 08:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughy, because I nearly did end up in jail a long time ago over an ex's wife! She liked my kids at first, then concieved her own and her attitude changed. But she would still put little notes in their overnight backpacks telling me what I should do about this and that, in regards to my children. One weekend I got another dumb note telling me what to do. The next day, school pics came back..and the ones they ordered were sent home with my children. Sooo, I took the note and in RED pen acted like a spelling teacher corrected all her mispelled words and punctuation! I put the corrected note in with the pics, so when she got them and pulled them out...WA LA! (She never sent me a note again!!)
2007-08-25 08:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, here is the problem, legally - if the kids are in his (their) house - her rules apply - if that is how your ex-husband chooses to have his house. You cannot control what goes on in their home, as much as you want to. The two of you may have polar parenting styles - but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, except accept the fact the two of you are two different people.
Seek counseling if you have to - but your attitude towards her is going to affect your kids more negatively than her enforcing rules you don't agree with.
2007-08-25 08:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon your outlook of this situation. Stop looking at her as a ******* even though that may be the case. Second I know it is our nature to protect our children but is she harming them physically, emotionally. If not then maybe you are both just too emotinally involved w/ the man. Just try and focus remove yourself from the situation a little bit and do what is right for your kids. She will obviously be there I am assuming she still has some kind of attachment to him otherwise she would be gone and try and get along like mature adults. Biting your tounge and gracefulness might have to play a big part in all this but once she sees she can't get a rise out of you or her ex she might move on with her life.
Good luck
2007-08-25 08:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Stand up to her, go to court if you need to so this can be on record, make your claim for your visitations.
If there are somethings that need to be done as far as financial, or discipline, do your part and never mind, da stupid *****.
You know what your are doing with YOUR children, I'm sure you will not harm them or make any messed-up decisons for or about them.
**** her!!!!!
2007-08-28 08:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by msblkbtrfly69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to answer a question like yours that just doesn't offer any information to go on. Like what is she doing, exactly, that has you so upset? I don't know that you would want to trust any answer given on such little information.
You may be, of course, just blowing off some steam. It's pretty hard to live with the mixed family issues, i know. But i do encourage you to keep your mind on that jail thing - and do avoid it...wishing you a better day
2007-08-25 08:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isn't the fault of your ex husband's wife this is the fault of your ex husband. HE needs to remind her that YOUR children are not HER children and for her to back off. I suggest you discuss the problem with him and if he refuses to do anything about it talk with your lawyer.
2007-08-25 11:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋