i know this is kind of a personal question...but i just got married about a week ago.
my husband doesn't seem to take any interest in me anymore! he comes to bed about an hour after i do and doesn't even look at me the way he used to. We've only 'done it' once since we got married which was on the wedding night. last night i dressed in lingere and cooked him dinner and his comment was 'you look cute' and then he went and turned on the tv. is this what i can exdpect of married life...?
2007-08-25 07:52:11 · 9 answers · asked by stephanie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only if you allow it to continue.
Something is amiss if this was not his habit before. if it goes on for too long, you can get in quite a rut.
So, ask your husband what he expects is "normal" for him, how often he might want intimacy and tell him what your ideas are.
Marriage is all about expectations and communications. If those two things are worked out, you may find that even tho sex is not as frequent as you might like it, there are other ways to feel loved and cared for. But, you're right in that watching TV is not one of them.
2007-08-25 08:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Was it a big wedding that he could possibly still be winding down from?
Did you live together prior to this?
How exactly did he treat/look at you prior to getting married?
Is he working all day prior to dinner time?
2007-08-25 15:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by MyCat"Evan" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stephanie, Only if you allow it ! Hon sit him down one on one and open your heart. Total honesty you tell him the way you expect things to be and ask him what he expects ! If you can not find a happy middle ground divorce now. Life is too precious to waste !
2007-08-25 15:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would chat with him about it. Don't be confrontational. Just ask him why and what can be done to get him interested again. If he gets too kinky and it is stuff that you don't want to do, I would not though. It doesn't do any good if he is happy and you are not.
Maybe a counselor?
2007-08-25 15:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...maybe he's feeling the pressure of what his "duties" are in a marriage. Ask him what's up and if he doesn't feel like talking, don't push him, he'll come around. In the meantime, don't push him sexually either, he's obviously dealing with something right now. It's not your fault so don't start thinking like that either.
2007-08-25 15:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by lippy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys get married because they miss their mommy cleaning up after them and cooking for them. He may be asexual and really is not interested in sex.
2007-08-25 16:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting very strange after only one week of marriage. I would think you would ask him what's going on.
2007-08-25 15:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer this question, what was the reason you two got married? Often it is usually for all the wrong reasons......
2007-08-25 15:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he has any problems. Sounds like a dud.
2007-08-25 16:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋